"This is one of the most useful popular psychology books I have ever seen. . . . It should become a classic." --- Stephen M. Johnson, author of Character Styles and Characterological Transformation"As a psychotherapist with close to 20 years of experience who is constantly reading books in my field, I find this book to be extremely illuminating and applicable for both my personal experiences, and for my work with clients in private practice. I almost never write product reviews, and I felt compelled to write a review for this book. I appreciate the author's inclusion of energy and the body with psychological perspectives about the survival patterns of human beings. His voice is gentle, clear, humane, and optimistic. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is interested in being a student of life and from being a human. I would love to see the author write a book about ways to heal each survival pattern." -- Kun-Hong Lu"Wow. This book is incredible. I have worked doing deep healing work with clients for the last 9 years and I integrate the enneagram, energy work and other somatic practices. Steven has done a brilliant and deep work developing and compiling this information in a way that is approachable and also vast. His writing shows he has obviously put in his time sitting and supporting and studying real humans. This work is a game changer." -- Micah T. McLaughlin "This book has changed my life. I have read many personality and self-help books, this one has given me the perspective for true change. Not only does Steven Kessler help me feel understood and help me understand myself, but he has given me tools that are healing me. Now, after reading it, I use it as a reference book daily... the more I re-read, the more I learn. He addresses the physical, emotional, mental, energetic and spiritual body. I love the way he points out that as we heal from our wounds, we'll be able to use the 'gifts' we have developed through our 'wounding'. This book is written clearly and with empathy. Thank you! I love it!""This brilliant book has ben a game changer in my life. Kessler writes with deep insight, understanding and compassion about human beings and our struggles, differences and gifts. This book is uncannily revealing and will be a great help to those looking to learn more about themselves. If you want to understand how you got stuck, how to get unstuck, how to lovingly grow yourself up and gather our own buried gold, this book is for you. It is eminently readable, accessible and frankly, hard to put down."