Table of Contents

Acknowledgments

Prologue Urdhvaretas: Yoga’s Path of Complete Maturation of Ensouled, Engendered Bodies

1 Everything Will Change
A Most Unusual Invitation
Awakening Dormant Seed Potentials
Urdhvaretas First Bursts in the Modern West
Reenvisioning Family Life

2 Entering the Mystery: Moving from Cynical Certainty to Spiritual Intimacies
Something Hidden Is Going On
Five Degrees of Approach

3 Shared-Gender Mystery
Male and Female as Starting Points
Gender Is the Sharing of Mystery
Gender Awe
Gender Worship
The Prosthesis of an Owned Sexuality
Homosexual Mystery

4 Purposeful Urdhvaretas
Who Chooses Urdhvaretas?
Why You Might Choose Brahmacharya
Beginning and Setting a Time Frame
Considerations of Personality and Mystery

5 Yogic Anatomy and Transformation of the Ars Erotica Body
The Subtle Bodies
The Chakras
Transforming Passion into Divine Rapture
Meditative Knowing

6 Commitment and Marriage as Grihastha Mysteries
Lifelong Commitment: The Crux of Finitude
To Stay or to Leave?
Viyoga (Hidden Unions) and Spoken Passion
The Erotic Freedom of Belonging

7 The Passions and Mysteries of Fertility
Procreative Wonders
Meditation: Retas Mysteries
Creating New Life
Procreation and the Shared-Gender Mystery
Sharing a Home with Mystery
Ars Erotica Facts of Life for Teenagers

8 Within the Intimus: The Myriad Inner Empathic Spaces (IES)
Sixty-four Intimate Spaces of Ars Erotica

9 Communication Yoga
Twenty-one Verbal Asanas of Creative Communication for Couples

10 Relational Worship
Ritual Worship of Mystery
This and That
Profundity within Simplicity

11 Hatha Yoga as Ars Erotica
Bandhas and Mudras
Asanas
Chair and Bed Yoga
Family Practice Ideas
Partnered Practices
Sahaja Yoga

12 Sringara Rasa
Suggestive Ambiguities of Twilight Teachings Reveal, Conceal, and Protect the Intimus
Beyond Protective Ambiguities and Scholarly Demystifying Certainties into the Sacred Intimus

13 Brahmacharya: Solo Intimacy with the Source
The Heights
The Saint
Elder Sannyasa, Letting Go

Afterword

Glossary

Notes

Bibliography

Index

About the Author

Stuart Sovatsky, Ph.D., has degrees in religion and psychology from Princeton University and the California Institute of Integral Studies. A kundalini tantra practitioner since 1972, he was the producer of the World Congress on Psychology and Spirituality in India in 2008, which featured more than 400 delegates from 40 countries, including B. K. S. Iyengar, Robert Thurman, and S. S. Ravi Shankar. A kundalini chant-master with Axis Mundi, he has counseled thousands of people worldwide on yoga and relationships. He lives in Richmond, California.

Reviews

“Stuart Sovatsky's well-researched and experimentally validated teachings, shared in Advanced Spiritual Intimacy, will surely be a great resource for empowering married couples around the world to find true spiritual happiness, as well as helping contemporary yogis and yoginis actually achieve the exalted goals of yogic adepts of ancient times.”
*Robert Thurman, Professor of Indo-Tibetan Buddhist Studies, Columbia University,author of Inner Revo*

“Stuart Sovatsky’s Advanced Spiritual Intimacy is a tour de force. He takes us beyond the texts to demonstrate how the ancient path of spiritual growth may extend across a whole lifetime. This book expands our Western hermeneutic of tantra toward engendering a paradigm shift in the methodology for all who have been teaching its ways for years or decades. And as years and lifecycles unfold for persons of all walks of life, this study may help to honor the depths of Indian marriage from the depths of SanÄ tana Dharma itself.”
*Purushottama Bilimoria, Ph.D.; Chancellor’s Scholar, UC Berkeley; post-doctorate fellow, Oxfor*

“This book reveals tantra’s most central and powerful aspect: converting sexual energy into a higher, consciousness-altering vitality. Stuart Sovatsky’s vast knowledge and four decades of practice of tantra yoga and his lifelong work as a relationship therapist is a perfect combination for his book Advanced Spiritual Intimacy. A must read for all who aspire to a spiritual way of life and are wondering just where sex fits in.”
*Georg Feuerstein, Ph.D., author of Sacred Sexuality, and Brenda Feuerstein, author of Traditional Yo*

“Advanced Spiritual Intimacy is an excellent book that will help couples and individuals to grow and master themselves.”
*Frédéric Luskin, Ph.D., author of Forgive for Good and director of the Stanford University*

“Few people are as well positioned as Stuart Sovatsky to contribute to the West’s understanding of yoga and tantra, and he has done so with Advanced Spiritual Intimacy. This book adds a new dimension and another level to the understanding of our ultimate potential.”
*Philip Goldberg, author of American Veda*

“Through decades of pioneering service projects, writings, and his kirtans arousing of Kundalini, Stuart has uplifted the academic and spiritual landscape of the West. For those who long to meet a lifelong yogi, master, beloved of Lord Shiva, you will find such a one in the pages of Advanced Spiritual Intimacy.”
*Swami Adi Narayan, author of The Beloved: A Song of Eternal Love*

“Sovatsky’s work brings the depths of India’s spiritual path of marriage and family love to the Western world in keeping with India’s core vision of Vasudhaiva kutumbakam--the world is indeed one Family--and reveals the devotional dimension of yoga in the truest voice of the Indian spiritual soul.”
*Sunil Saini, Ph.D., president of Indian Association of Health, Research, and Welfare*

“The extent of Sovatsky’s knowledge is breathtaking. He makes an important and persuasive reframing of Brahmacharya as an ‘inner marriage’ rather than celibacy, with yoga as its own love affair with prana. He completely transforms what is currently understood as ‘practicing yoga’ and provides a fresh way of re-envisioning intimacy for anyone on a spiritual path.”
*Ira Israel, marriage and family therapist and yoga teacher/therapist*

“Sovatsky guides us with a master’s hands to open the portals of devotional worship in yoga and in love. His book is a tour de force, beckoning lovers deeper into the seed mysteries of devotion and worship.”
*Tina M. Benson, M.A., transpersonal/Jungian-oriented coach and founder/creator of the Soul Speaks Pr*

“The Age of Aquarius begins right now with Stuart Sovatsky’s new sexual (r)evolution. Get out your surfboards and anchor yourself on the crest of the wave with Advanced Spiritual Intimacy. Don’t forget to enjoy the ride!”
*Lisa Paul Streitfeld, cultural critic/philosopher, Huffington Post Arts*

“Stuart Sovatsky’s Advanced Spiritual Intimacy bravely walks the cutting edge of tantra and blasts us open into spirit consciousness, while enlivening us to the potentiality of matter and flesh.”
*Katie Silcox, author of Healthy Happy Sexy: Ayurveda Wisdom for Modern Women*

“Sovatsky’s forty years of spiritual practice, erudite scholarship, and clinical experience radiates throughout Advanced Spiritual Intimacy. This book shows a way to lifelong love that lives within the hidden depths of tantra and the inner marriage of yogis, saints, and sages.”
*Ken Wilber, author of The Fourth Turning: Imagining the Future of an Integral Buddhism*

“Advanced Spiritual Intimacy is like an attic trunk packed with treasure-garments, with gowns and capes that must perhaps be shaken out and worn, gotten accustomed to, before their full value is revealed.”
*Craig Comstock, Huffington Post Blog, June 2014*

“I highly recommend this book to any spiritually minded person or couple looking to awaken their creative potential, deepen their life partnership, heal the emotional scars of past relationships, or mature their emotional-sexual being beyond the impulses of adolescence. This book would be a valuable asset for any couples therapist or marriage counselor who wants to offer a yogic spiritual component in their practice.”
*Merikah Robertson, Common Ground, September 2014*

“Advanced Spiritual Intimacy is a cultural critique, tantric sex manual, and an astute primer in verbal and nonverbal communication. While most psychologists dismiss romance as infatuation, Sovatsky's brilliance is to take it seriously as the ground of a highly disciplined but unique Kundalini-inspired approach to erotic intimacy.”
*Seth Farber, Ph.D., author of The Spiritual Gift of Madness*