Katy Butler’s articles have appeared in The New York Times Magazine, The Best American Science Writing, and The Best American Essays. A finalist for a National Magazine Award, she lives in Northern California. She is the author of Knocking on Heaven’s Door and The Art of Dying Well.
“Butler’s factual, no-nonsense tone is surprisingly comforting, as
are her stories of how ordinary folks confronted difficult medical
decisions… Her thoughtful book belongs on the same shelf as Atul
Gawande’s best-selling Being Mortal and Barbara Ehrenreich’s
Natural Causes.”
—The Washington Post
“A roadmap to the end… combines medical, practical, and spiritual
guidance.”
—Kate Tuttle, The Boston Globe
"A commonsense path to define what a 'good' death looks like."
—USA Today
“An empowering guide that clearly outlines the steps necessary to
avoid a chaotic end in an emergency room and to prepare for a
beautiful death without fear.”
—Shelf Awareness
“Straightforward, well-organized, nondepressing… Free of
platitudes, Butler’s voice makes the most intimidating of
processes—that of dying—come across as approachable. Her
reasonable, down-to-earth tone makes for an effective preparatory
guide.”
—Publishers Weekly
“I unwrap new books about end-of-life issues with a certain
world-weariness. That changed when I received a copy of Katy
Butler’s The Art of Dying Well… For all of us boomers who have
wondered how we might apply what we learned from the passing of our
parents, and make the process smoother -- and yes, profound -- for
our children, here are some really good answers.”
—Barbara Peters Smith, Sarasota Herald-Tribune
“This book is filled with deep knowledge and many interesting
experiences. It is a guide for staying as healthy and happy as
possible while aging, and also shows how important it is to be
medically informed and know our rights in the communities where we
live, in order to stay in charge of our lives and therefore less
afraid of the future. Katy Butler has written a very honest book. I
just wish I had read it ten years ago. You can do it now!”
—Margareta Magnusson, author of The Gentle Art of Swedish
Death Cleaning
“The Art of Dying Well is a guide to just that: how to face the
inevitable in an artful way. Katy Butler has clear eyes and speaks
plainly about complicated decisions. This book is chock-full of
good ideas.”
—Sallie Tisdale, author of Advice for Future Corpses
“In plain English and with plenty of true stories to
illustrate her advice, Katy Butler provides a brilliant map
for living well through old age and getting from the health
system what you want and need, while avoiding what you don't. Armed
with this superb book, you can take back control of how you live
before you die.”
—Diane E. Meier, MD, Director, Center to Advance Palliative
Care
“Katy Butler has given us a much needed GPS for navigating aging
and death. The Art of Dying Well is a warm, wise and
straightforward guide, hugely helpful to anyone—everyone—who
will go through the complex journey to the end of life.”
—Ellen Goodman, Founder, The Conversation Project
“No, you won’t survive your death, but you can live until the very
last moment without the pain and humiliation that inevitably
accompany an over-medicalized dying process. Katy Butler shows
how, and I am profoundly grateful to her for doing so.”
—Barbara Ehrenreich, author of Natural Causes
“This is a book to devour, discuss, dog-ear, and then revisit as
the years pass. Covering matters medical, practical, financial and
spiritual – and, beautifully, their intersection – Katy Butler
gives wise counsel for the final decades of our ‘wild and precious’
lives. A crucial addition to the bookshelves of those seeking
agency, comfort and meaning, The Art of Dying Well is not only
about dying. It’s about living intentionally and in community.”
—Lucy Kalanithi, MD, FACP, Clinical Assistant Professor of
Medicine, Stanford School of Medicine
“The Art of Dying Well is the best guidebook I know of for
navigating the later stages of life. Katy Butler’s counsel is
simple and practical, but the impact of this book is profound. A
remarkable feat.”
—Ira Byock, MD, author of Dying Well and The Best Care Possible,
Active Emeritus Professor of Medicine, the Geisel School of
Medicine at Dartmouth
Praise for Katy Butler and Knocking on Heaven's Door
“This is a book so honest, so insightful and so achingly beautiful
that its poetic essence transcends even the anguished story that it
tells. Katy Butler’s perceptive intellect has probed deeply, and
seen into the many troubling aspects of our nation’s inability to
deal with the reality of dying in the 21st century: emotional,
spiritual, medical, financial, social, historical and even
political. And yet, though such valuable insights are presented
with a journalist’s clear eye, they are so skillfully woven into
the narrative of her beloved parents’ deaths that every sentence
seems to come from the very wellspring of the human spirit that is
in her."
—Dr. Sherwin B. Nuland, author of How We Die: Reflections of
Life's Final Chapter
“Knocking on Heaven’s Door is a thoroughly researched and
compelling mix of personal narrative and hard-nosed reporting that
captures just how flawed care at the end of life has become."
—Abraham Verghese, New York Times Book Review
“This is some of the most important material I have read in years,
and so beautifully written. It is riveting, and even with parents
long gone, I found it very hard to put down. ... I am deeply
grateful for its truth, wisdom, and gorgeous stories—some
heartbreaking, some life-giving, some both at the same time. Butler
is an amazing and generous writer. This book will change you, and,
I hope, our society."
—Anne Lamott, author of Help, Thanks, Wow
"Shimmer[s] with grace, lucid intelligence, and solace."
—Lindsey Crittenden, Spirituality and Health Magazine
"[A] deeply felt book...[Butler] is both thoughtful and passionate
about the hard questions she raises — questions that most of us
will at some point have to consider. Given our rapidly aging
population, the timing of this tough and important book could not
be better."
—Laurie Hertzel, Minneapolis Star Tribune
"This braid of a book...examines the battle between death and the
imperatives of modern medicine. Impeccably reported, Knocking on
Heaven's Door grapples with how we need to protect our loved ones
and ourselves."
—More Magazine
"A forthright memoir on illness and investigation of how to improve
end-of-life scenarios. With candidness and reverence, Butler
examines one of the most challenging questions a child may face:
how to let a parent die with dignity and integrity. Honest and
compassionate..."
—Kirkus Reviews
“Katy Butler’s science background and her gift for metaphor make
her a wonderfully engaging storyteller, even as she depicts one of
our saddest but most common experiences: that of a slow death in an
American hospital. Knocking on Heaven’s Door is a terrible,
beautiful book that offers the information we need to navigate the
complicated world of procedure and technology-driven health
care.”
—Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia and Seeking
Peace: Chronicles of the Worst Buddhist in the World
"Katy Butler's new book—brave, frank, poignant, and loving—will
encourage the conversation we, as a society, desperately need to
have about better ways of dying. From her own closely-examined
personal experience, she fearlessly poses the difficult questions
that sooner or later will face us all.”
—Adam Hochschild, author of King Leopold's
Ghost and To End All Wars
"This is the most important book you and I can read. It is not just
about dying, it is about life, our political and medical system,
and how to face and address the profound ethical and personal
issues that we encounter as we care for those facing dying and
death. [This book's] tenderness, beauty, and heart-breaking honesty
matches the stunning data on dying in the West. A splendid and
compassionate endeavor."
—Joan Halifax, PhD, Founding Abbot, Upaya Institute/Zen Center and
Director, Project on Being With Dying: Cultivating Compassion and
Fearlessness in the Presence of Death
"This beautifully written and well researched book will take you
deep into the unexplored heart of aging and medical care in America
today. With courage, unrelenting honesty, and deepest compassion,
... Knocking on Heaven’s Door makes it clear that until care of the
soul, families, and communities become central to our medical
approaches, true quality of care for elders will not be
achieved."
—Dennis McCullough, author of My Mother, Your Mother:
Embracing "Slow Medicine," the Compassionate Approach to Caring
"Butler’s advice is neither formulaic nor derived from pamphlets...
[it] is useful, and her challenge of our culture of denial about
death necessary... Knocking on Heaven’s Door [is] a book those
caring for dying parents will want to read and reread. [It] will
help those many of us who have tended or will tend dying parents to
accept the beauty of our imperfect caregiving."
—Suzanne Koven, Boston Globe
"Knocking on Heaven's Door is more than just a guide to dying, or a
personal story of a difficult death: It is a lyrical meditation on
death written with extraordinary beauty and sensitivity."
—San Francisco Chronicle
"[Knocking on Heaven's Door is] a triumph, distinguished by the
beauty of Ms. Butler's prose and her saber-sharp indictment of
certain medical habits. [Butler offers an] articulate challenge to
the medical profession: to reconsider its reflexive postponement of
death long after lifesaving acts cease to be anything but pure
brutality."
—Abigail Zuger, MD, The New York Times
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