Foreword Prologue and Author's Note Introduction The Nature of Availability Radical Optimism The Good-Enough Teenager What Do I Know? Availability: Your Mandate as a Parent Part 1: Your Teenager's Wild World Too Much Data, Too Little Filter This Isn't Kansas Anymore The Adolescent Mind Social In-security Breaking Away The Nature of Teen Rebellion Sex Intimacy: More Than Hooking Up Body Image: The Locker Room Terror What About the Gay Issue? Part 2: What Never Works Why Lectures Never Work Why Vicarious Living Never Works Why Micromanaging Never Works Why Snooping Never Works Why Underestimating Never Works Why Blinders Never Work Why Judging Never Works Why Smothering Never Works Why Coddling Never Works Why Overindulgence Never Works Why Bribery Never Works Why "Good Cop, Bad Cop" Never Works Why Waiting Never Works Part 3: What Always Works Check Your Ego Don't Make It About You Emotional Role Modeling Tapping Your Intuition Gaining Traction Deposits in the Emotional Bank Account Simple Acknowledgment The Multiple Benefits of Laughter The Ozzy Connection Communication and Connection The Power of Music Other Ways to Connect The Friendship Debate Shifting the Energy Re-connecting Protect Time Step Away from the iPhone! u cn txt ur kid, k? Calm, Clear Consequences Disciplinary Action Punishment, Rewards, and Consequences The Behavioral Contract When to Say No: Following Your Intuition See the Light Fondness and Admiration Finding Those Corners Where Strengths Dwell Supporting Your Teen's Interests Building Self-Esteem or Self-Mastery What about the Weird Kid? Be the Change Inspiration by Example When Not to Be Available: Parent as Consultant Why Available Parenting Always Works Final Note: My Hope for You About the Author
John Duffy is a clinical psychologist and certified life coach with a thriving private practice. In addition to clinical work, Duffy also consults with individuals, groups, and corporations. Dr. Duffy's highly satisfied clients include Sears, Allstate, General Electric, Household Financial, Exxon Mobil, Accenture, Bank of America, and Hewitt Associates. He lives in Chicago.
"This book came to me just at the right moment, as my older daughter hovers on the edge of adolescence. I'm grateful for Dr. Duffy's wisdom, which I know will allow me to enjoy my daughters' teen years rather than just "make it through" them. I will revisit this book again and again over the coming years--whenever I need a reminder to be present and available to my kids. It has refreshed my sense of gratitude and appreciation for the remarkable young people in my life." --Kate Hopper, Author of Use Your Words: A Writing Guide for Mothers and Ready for Air: A Journey Through Premature Motherhood