S. Bear Bergman is the author of two books, the Lambda Award-nominated The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You (Arsenal Pulp, 2009), and Butch is a Noun, first published by Suspect Thoughts in 2006 and reissued in a new edition by Arsenal Pulp Press in 2010. Bear is also the co-editor (with Kate Bornstein) of the Lambda Award-winning anthology Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation (Seal, 2010). A longtime activist and public speaker, Bear continues to work at the intersection between and among gender, sexuality, and culture. Originally from Connecticut, Bear now lives with hir husband and son in Toronto.
"S. Bear Bergman is a first-rate storyteller, and this is his
finest book to date. This heartwarming book is the first of its
kind: a father/son love story in a family with one incredible kid
and two queer, polyamorous, trans dads. Chapter by chapter, Bergman
answered any question I had (and many questions I'd never
considered) about the sociology of the ever-present radical
normalcy in postmodern nuclear family life, and the tragicomedy of
chosen family, deep in the heart of LGBT queerdom. Be prepared to
laugh, cry, and gasp out loud. I sure did." --Kate Bornstein "S.
Bear Bergman writes tenderly and thoughtfully about the many many
ways family creates us -- and breaks us -- for which we have few
words. Yes, in some ways I love this book just because there are
ways in which it's my own personal family album. But I love it even
more for the ways in which it is yours, and everyone's." --Hanne
Blank "A memoir that confronts all sorts of difficult ideas about
family and love, exploding preconceived notions and embarking on
redefinitions." --National Post "I have read so many books, but
none so much as Blood, Marriage, Wine & Glitter have made me feel
less alone." --Autostraddle "Bergman has crafted a well-wrought
book of essays on parenting, non-traditional families, healing from
old wounds, and intimacy that very nearly brought me to tears on
several occasions ... The book rings true and clear in a modern
queer world." --Lambda Literary
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