Introduction 1: How Do We Understand Men's Friendships? 2: What Do Friendship and Friend Mean? 3: So How Do Friendships Actually Work? 4: What Do Men Learn From their Fathers About Friendships? Part II. Understanding Women's Friendships 5: Do Women Influence Men's Friendships? 6: Do Women Feel the Same Way About Friends As Do Men? Part III. Men's Friendships across the Decades 7: Marty in His 20s: Needing Friends and Family 8: Zach in His 30s: Balancing Family, Friends, and Work 9: Al in His 40s: Continuing the Balancing Act 10: Mick in His 50s: Needing Friends More Than Ever 11: Michael in His 60s: Friendships Shaped by Early Experiences 12: Donald in His 70s: Going Strong 13: Tom in His 80s: Realizing All His Friends Are Gone 14: Fred in His 90s: Thinking Maybe It's in the Genes Part Iv. Making and Maintaining Friendships 15: Men's Fellowship at a Saturday Morning Church Group 16: Improving Your Friendships Appendix A: Methodology Appendix B: Questions for Men's Groups and Classroom Discussion References
Geoffrey Greif is a Professor in the School of Social Welfare at the University of Maryland.
"[Greif] has written a wonderfully textured exploration of the diversity of men's friendships through the lifespan...Highly recommended."--Choice "Greif has taken interviews with 400 men about their friendships, and comes to the conclusion that while, yes, there are differences, a man's friendships can be as deep and lasting as a woman's, and those strong relationships help men have longer and happier lives."--Sacramento Book Review "Fascinating. Most research simply compares men's and women's friendships and finds men's lacking. Through his adept interviews, Greif does something smarter: he finds out what friendships actually mean to men. He listens to what they say, maps their friendships, and sees them from men's point of view. This is a very useful and timely book!"--Michael Kimmel, PhD, Professor of Sociology, SUNY Stony Brook, and author of Manhood in America "Any man who would like to enlarge the place of friendship in his life will savor this book. It's not that Greif tells us how, specifically, to do it. (We do want to retain some room for our own unique innovations.) It's that he teaches us the kinds of questions to ask ourselves, and then he tells us how other thoughtful men and women view relationships of all kinds. We each have to find our own path to friendship, but this book lights the way."--Terry A. Kupers, MD, MSP, Psychiatrist and author of Revisioning Men's Lives and Prison Madness