Table of Contents

Acknowledgments

INTRODUCTION
How Cannabis Enhances Intimacy

ONE
Meet the Marijuana Muse

TWO
Clues from the Research Trail

THREE
Couples Choosing Cannabis

FOUR
Preparing to Take Off Together

FIVE
Tapping into the Magic

SIX
Finessing the Chatterbox Phase

SEVEN
Coming Fully to Your Senses

EIGHT
Tapping Eros Transformation

NINE
Sharing New Creative Insights

TEN
Mutual Awakening

FINAL WORDS
Keeping the Adventure Alive

The Free High Together App

Online Guidance & Community

Notes

Index

About the Author

About the Author

John Selby is a psychologist and author of 30 books in 14 languages, with a degree in family counseling and pastoral psychology from UC Berkeley's Graduate Theological Union. A developer of numerous mindfulness programs, Selby researched psychedelics and meditation at the Bureau of Research in Neurology and Psychiatry. He has a private cannabis-assisted spiritual-counseling practice and lives in Santa Cruz, California.

Reviews

"A thorough examination of what it means to mindfully get high together. This daring book offers a road map to navigate grown-up cannabis experiences that may well be new to you. No matter where you are on the spectrum of smoking, it will help you discover, and rediscover, your world together." * JULIE HOLLAND, M.D. & JEREMY WOLFF, contributors to The Pot Book *
"If you've ever imagined that there might be a kind older person with decades of personal and professional experience on how to best use cannabis, who would share in depth a multitude of ways to improve your experiences, you're going to want this book. John Selby is all of the above and a lot more. This book will lead you into more pleasure, more awareness, greater depths, more sensory excitement, more fun, and more wisdom. Spoiler alert: the last few chapters take what you've learned from the rest to a whole new level. Consider this book to be a gift to yourself, your partner, and your relationship." * James Fadiman, Ph.D., author of The Psychedelic Explorer's Guide *
"John Selby's years of experience supporting couples on their journey of intentional cannabis use shines throughout this wonderful book. Sharing the cannabis space with a partner is a deeply meaningful experience--and rich with connection and depth. When used intentionally, cannabis can bring couples together in ways that are truly magical. John's teachings are sincere, incredibly skillful, and pragmatic. He takes all of the trial and error out of the equation, and this allows couples to immediately benefit from safe and sacred cannabis use. He outlines a wonderful foundation that can support years of sacred intimacy between loving partners. I highly recommend this book." * Daniel McQueen, executive director of the Center for Medicinal Mindfulness *
"John Selby has provided a higher education for couples. His chapter on marijuana and sex, 'Tapping Eros Transformation,' is a true gift, especially for couples transitioning into middle age or beyond. With specific exercises designed to deepen intimacy, this book makes plain how cannabis can make love bloom anew. One can only imagine what such rarely spoken of information can do for a couple in their 20s or 30s! I highly recommend it!" * Charles Wininger, LP, LMHC, author of Listening to Ecstasy *
"John Selby's new book is an excellent guide for couples considering bringing cannabis into their lives or expanding the range of their current use. The guidance is also just as useful for individuals looking for reliable, extensively 'field-tested' information. The book covers all the important bases, is direct and intimate in tone, and chock-full of accessible suggestions, checklists, affirmations, and anecdotes. I'm confident that reading Cannabis for Couples and putting the information to use will revitalize many a relationship. And, again, it's not just for couples." * Stephen Gray, editor of Cannabis and Spirituality *
"Do you and your partner want to take your relationship to a whole new dimension of ecstatic interaction? Are you openminded enough not to be bothered about our culture's mostly foolish admonitions against a simple, completely natural herb like cannabis? If so, here's a simply great guided program for you and yours on how to elevate your intimacy. Highly recommended!" * Will Johnson, author of Cannabis in Spiritual Practice *