Table of Contents

Introduction 1 Part I: Getting Started on Overcoming Codependency 5 Chapter 1: Codependency Hurts 7 Chapter 2: Somebody Please Tell Me What Codependency Is 29 Chapter 3: Symptoms of Codependency 39 Chapter 4: Crossing De-Nile to Recovery 71 Chapter 5: So, Are You Codependent? 81 Part II: Breakthrough to Recovery Healing Yourself 89 Chapter 6: Getting Started in Recovery 91 Chapter 7: What Made You Codependent? 99 Chapter 8: Healing Your Wounds Freeing Your Self 121 Chapter 9: Welcome to the Real You 139 Chapter 10: Building Self-Esteem and Self-Love 155 Chapter 11: Finding Pleasure 177 Part III: Healing Your Relationships with Others 187 Chapter 12: Letting Go and Nonattachment 189 Chapter 13: Speaking Up 211 Chapter 14: Relating to Your Family, Friends, and Lovers 229 Chapter 15: Making Relationships Work 243 Part IV: Moving On and Maintaining Recovery 261 Chapter 16: Following Your Bliss 263 Chapter 17: Where to Get Help 277 Chapter 18: Working the Twelve Steps 285 Chapter 19: Maintaining Recovery 303 Part V: The Part of Tens 315 Chapter 20: Ten Ways to Love Yourself 317 Chapter 21: Ten Daily Reminders 323 Index 329

About the Author

Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in relationships and codependency. Ms. Lancer has counseled individuals and couples for 28 years and coaches internationally. She's a sought-after speaker to professionals at national conferences and in the media.