Karyn Purvis, PhD was an authoritative speaker, writer, trainer,
and passionate advocate for children. Her work has been featured in
Newsweek, Focus on the Family, Dateline, and
countless other media outlets. She was the founder of the Karyn
Purvis Institute of Child Development at Texas Christian University
where her tireless devotion to loving and serving children
continues to flourish.
Lisa Qualls is the mother of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. She is the creator of the One Thankful Mom blog and a popular speaker at events for adoptive and foster parents. She mentors and encourages moms and dads using the methods developed by child expert Dr. Karyn Purvis.
"The deeply rich and nuanced skill set required for offering
secure parenting to children with trauma has too often been left to
common sense. But now, Karyn Purvis and Lisa Qualls provide a
wealth of research-based expertise and personal experience that
will change the life of any adult caring for a child who knows
'hard places.' They offer a wide variety of practical tools for
understanding the core (and often hidden) needs of children
struggling with trauma. Their compassionate, wise, and clinically
proven step-by-step options can alter the outcome of any child's
life. My deep gratitude to Karyn Purvis and Lisa Qualls for making
this practical and life-altering option available in such a clear,
accessible, and compassionate way."
-Kent Hoffman, cofounder of Circle of Security and coauthor of Raising a Secure Child
"When caring for children from hard places, feelings of
love are simply not enough. This book addresses so many topics
close to our own hearts and personal story. The real-life accounts
of walking through the hardest places will bring the hope and
healing that are so desperately needed. To Karyn Purvis and Lisa
Qualls, thank you for an amazing resource that everyone in the
adoption community can use on their own path toward
-Mary Beth Chapman, cofounder of Show Hope
"Providing care for children who come from 'hard places'
isn't easy. These children think and act with few assumptions of
safety and trust. To connect with these children, we need to
understand and attend to their underlying fear and shame while
ensuring that we are approachable and trustworthy ourselves. Karyn
and Lisa remind us again and again about the power of relationships
in promoting healing and development, and they provide many
practical strategies to assist us in our journey. They also remind
us also of the need to begin at the beginning, creating safety and
connection, balancing nurture with predictability and structure,
while modeling the attitude and behaviors we hope to teach. The
Connected Parent complements Karyn's earlier work, The Connected
Child, and highlights the need for parents to understand and care
for themselves while providing their children with the comfort and
joy they desperately need. This journey may be hard, so you would
do well to keep this book at your side."
-Dan Hughes, author and founder of Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy
"Lisa Qualls has done a masterful job of weaving her family's
story together with the powerful legacy of the late Dr. Karyn
Purvis. A must-read for parents who long to attach successfully to
their adopted kids."
-Sherrie Eldridge, author of Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
"Tragically, many traumatized children are greatly
misunderstood. Dr. Karyn Purvis knew how to reach these children
and begin the process of healing. In her final written work, The
Connected Parent, Dr. Purvis shares her wisdom and expertise for
working with children who have experienced trauma. She had a heart
as big as Texas, and we are so thrilled that her work continues to
help vulnerable children and families all around the world."
-Deborra-lee Jackman, adoptive parent and founder of Adopt Change and Hopeland
"This is the book foster and adoptive parents have waited
for. Dr. Karyn Purvis taught so many of us about our children and
how to play a part in their healing. Receiving more insight and
instruction from Dr. Purvis posthumously is an unexpected gift, and
it is made complete by the compassionate wisdom and experience of
fellow foster and adoptive mother Lisa Qualls. Together, their
voices create a more complete roadmap for foster and adoptive
parents as they love and parent children from hard places."
-Jamie Finn, speaker and author of Foster the Family
"This gem of a book provides parents with a holistic,
research-based parenting approach for children who have endured
trauma. Karyn Purvis's clear voice provides the science behind
children's struggles and effective parenting approaches. Lisa
brings the book home with her scripts, examples, and tips on
behavioral interventions. The authors connect aptly with their
readers even as they help us to connect with children. This
compassionate book touched my heart. I am grateful to Karyn Purvis
for her legacy through this book, made the richer through joint
authorship by Lisa Qualls."
-Deborah Gray, author of Promoting Healthy Attachments; Attaching with Love, Hugs, and Play; Nurturing Adoptions, and Attaching in Adoption
"This amazing book continues the legacy of Dr. Karyn
Purvis and her ground-breaking techniques in helping children and
families do the work of healing. Joining with Dr. Purvis, Lisa
Qualls brilliantly weaves real-life challenges and methods through
every chapter, offering hope and practical, realistic strategies.
This book will make a great resource for foster and adoptive parent
book clubs and support groups. I recommend it highly!"
-Jayne Schooler, author of Wound Children, Healing Homes, Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child, and The Whole Life Adoption Book