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A guide to understanding and dealing with overpowering, self-centered and arrogant people - those with destructive narcissistic patterns - who consistently make us feel fear, anger, shame, or guilt.

Table of Contents

Preface
Chapter 1 Who Are These Infuriating and Difficult People?
Chapter 2 The Destructive Narcissistic Pattern
Chapter 3 Indifference to Others: Extensions of Self and Boundaries, Exploitation, Lack of Empathy, and Envy
Chapter 4 The Inflated Self: Grandiosity, The Impoverished Self, Attention-Seeking, and Admiration Seeking
Chapter 5 Troubling States: Emotions, Emptiness, and Entitlement
Chapter 6 How You Contribute to Your Own Distress
Chapter 7 Intense Feelings: Anger, Fear, Guilt, and Shame
Chapter 8 The DNP in Relationships
Chapter 9 Moderating the Impact of the DNP on You
Bibliography
Index

About the Author

NINA W. BROWN is a Professor and Eminent Scholar in the Educational Leadership and Counseling Department at Old Dominion University.

Reviews

Writing in a clear, accessible style, the author focuses on how to alleviate the intense feelings and stress that often accompany dealing with such difficult people. This book could also be a resource for those working with alcoholics and others engaging in self-centered patterns of destructive behavior. This is a book for practitioners, mediators, marriage and family therapists, and those in training for those professions; it is not for laypersons. Highly recommended. Graduate students and professionals.
*Choice*

No doubt you have worked for one of them, been taught by one of them, or married one of them. They brag, take credit for the work of others, expect favors but give none, never listen, and know what is right and best, regardless of the topic. Take heart. Brown has a name for these people and she assures us they and not we are the problem. Far from urging those who must endure those with destructive narcissistic behaviors and attitudes to get over it, get behind it, or just take it, she carefully describes the specific behaviors you can diffuse by recognizing them and moderating the impact on yourself, including blocking identification, understanding your own cognitive distortion, using emotional insulation and refusing to empathize.
*Reference & Research Book News*

[N]ina Brown, is clearly the authority on the DNP. Thus, if you have to interact regularly with someone you suspect may exhibit DNP, then this is without a doubt the book you should read for help.
*metapsychology.mentalhelp.net*

Narcissistic behaviors displayed by those in power, friends and lovers affect everyone and are prevalent throughout society, which is why Coping with Infuriating, Mean, Critical People is so important and explains a destructive mental pattern which takes hold and affects many. Methods to help victims of this behavior are provided and come from a scholar/professor in Educational Leadership and Counseling, covering everything from indifference to others and emotional intimacy challenges to projection, protection and conquering loneliness. An outstanding guide surveys both victims and survivors as well as the narcissistic personality, this book is a pick for not only college-level holdings strong in psychology and sociology, but for general-interest library collections.
*Library Bookwatch*