Table of Contents

Foreword xi Introduction xiii Courage Is the Way The Three Components of Courage: Diversity, Pain, and Choice The Intention of the Author and This Book 1 The Business Case for Courage 1 The Fear of Discomfort and Pain Pain Thresholds Common Reactions to Tough Times Uncommon Choices The Big Temptation Honoring the Courageous Leader in You Assessing the Risks 2 The Courage to Get Unstuck 27 When Life Kicks You out of the Workplace Stuck in a Paradigm Pain During the Transition Making Sense of Our Pain 3 The Courage to Take a Stand 45 So, What Exactly Are Values? Actual and Aspirational Values Why Values Matter in Leadership Clarity on Values Activating Our Values 4 The Courage to Be Humble 63 Arrogance in the Workplace Intentions, Behaviors, and Arrogance Arrogance Is the Birthplace of the Humbling Experience Why Humility Matters Minimize Self and Maximize Our Bigger Purpose 5 The Courage to Be Confident 83 Those People Complex Confidence Comes from Self-Trust Your Vote Counts, and You Get to Vote for You! Confidence in the Workplace Strategies and Tools for Building Confidence 6 The Courage to Delegate 105 Delegation Takes Too Much Time I Feel Guilty Giving My Team More Work I Love Doing It All-or at Least Being the Superstar I Am Afraid My People Won't Do It as Well as I Would My Customer Wants Only Me I Don't Have People to Delegate to 7 The Courage to Give and Receive Feedback 123 The Big Temptation and Courageous Feedback The Feedback Trifecta-Giving Feedback The Feedback Trifecta-Receiving Feedback 8 The Courage to Be in the Middle (and Not Be in the Middle) 147 Much Th at Seems Personal Is Not Personal at All Be a Bottom When You Should Middle Between Two Ends Middle Space and Courage 9 Grow, Recover, Repeat 169 Recovery in the Workplace Indications We Need Recovery 10 Big Dreams, Big Moves 181 Big Dreams Big Moves Expect Success Plan for the Worst Build Your Board of Directors Recalibrating Making Your Big Move Acknowledgments 197 Epilogue 199 About the Author 201 Index 203

About the Author

ANGELA SEBALY is cofounder and CEO of Personify Leadership. She has more than twenty years' experience in leadership development working with thousands of leaders around the world, assessing their unique talents and guiding them to the next level of performance. A natural leader, entrepreneur, sought-after coach, and trainer, she has held senior roles with leading organizations in the telecommunications, construction, hospitality, and oil and gas industries.