A.V. Flox is a journalist who has written for the LA Times, Village Voice, LA Weekly, VICE, and Gizmodo. Feminista Jones is a social worker, in-demand feminist writer, public speaker, and community activist currently residing in Philadelphia.
"An essential handbook for supporting those who have been harmed,
while also caring for yourself. If you've ever felt helpless in the
face of someone else's discomfort or pain, this book will teach you
how to show up and stand up." Laszlo Bock, CEO of Humu and author
of Work Rules! Insights from Inside Google to Transform How You
Live and Lead
"A must-read for anyone interested in repairing harm in their
communities. Using a combination of personal narrative and
research, A.V. Flox provides a map for helping others to heal while
continuing to hold abusive individuals accountable. We all know
people who people who have been harmed and people who have harmed.
This is why everyone should read this book." Kelly Sundberg, author
of Goodbye, Sweet Girl: A Story of Domestic Violence and
Survival
"A.V. Flox effectively and empathically interweaves personal
experiences with a deep intuitive understanding of how the nervous
system adaptively shifts bodily states to support survival in the
short term, while simultaneously disrupting our health and our
ability to connect, co-regulate with loved ones, and
compassionately witness another's trauma." Stephen W. Porges, PhD,
Distinguished University Scientist and Founding Director of the
Traumatic Stress Research Consortium in the Kinsey Institute,
Indiana University and professor of psychiatry at the University of
North Carolina
"I'm both thrilled and relieved that A.V. Flox's important work is
now unleashed upon the world. Our communities need better
guidelines for reducing harm, ones that are informed by
neuroscience and the mechanics of trauma, and I can't think of a
more meticulous and conscientious author to handle the task." Arden
Leigh, creator of The Re-Patterning Project and frontwoman of Arden
and the Wolves
"A book filled with practical, concrete wisdomeven for those of us
who have to work at understanding humansto operate a community of
support and accountability in situations where we often find
ourselves at a loss." Lea Kissner, Chief Privacy Officer, Humu
"An urgent and hopeful guide to helping survivors feel safe and
find justice that transforms rather than punishes. Whether you're a
friend of a survivor or someone who has done harm, you'll find
answers here to the impossible question posed by #metoo: What do we
do with these perpetrators now?" Ella Dawson, sex and culture
writer
"The emotional wisdom and depth of research in this book is
incredible. Anyone supporting someone through trauma needs this
book." Aleatha Parker-Wood, machine learning and privacy
researcher
"This is a valuable and unique book, combining deep sensitivity and
empathy with a rigorous, evidence-based approach to the best ways
to handle some incredibly difficult situations." Sean Carroll,
author of Something Deeply Hidden Marketing Budget
"A brilliant and accessible guide that gives readers a toolkit for
converting themselves and friends from bystanders to activists in
the #metoo era. This timely book provides rationale, resources, and
starting points aimed towards restoration and transformation for
even those with the most complex of traumas." Chrissy Holman,
President of Open Love NY and Communications Lead, APA Division 44
CNM Task Force
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