Table of Contents

Relating to Others * Are We Family? Lesbians and Families of Origin Laura S. Brown * An Afternoon with My If-There-Were-a-Laws Judy MacLean * At Home Terri de la Pea * A New Political Twist Del Martin and Phillis Lyon * Finding a Word for Myself: Themes in Lesbian Coming-Out Stories Jessica F. Morris, Amy J. Ojerholm, Teri M. Brooks, Dana M. Osowieki, and Esther D. Rothblum * What I Should Have Said Deborah Perkins * At the Crossroads: Lesbian Youth Joyce Hunter * GWFISO Kelly Jo Woodside * Lesbian Baby Boomers at Midlife Esther D. Rothblum, Beth Mintz, D. Brookes Cowan, and Cheryl Haller * It Is a Large Future Lauren Crux * The Start of Something Big Paula Martinac * Circles and Rings: A Womans Ritual Sandra Butler * We Never Promised You Role Models Jear ne Adleman * RV Life Begins at Seventy Shevy Healy Relating to Each Other * Lesbian Couples Beverly A. Greene * About Being an Old Lesbian in Love Mary Meigs * Breaking Up Tee A. Corinne * Bridge Jean Swallow * Procrasti-dating Jacqueline Lapidus * Lesbian Marriage Ceremonies: I Do Kitty Tsui * June Brides E.J. Graff * Our Relationships and Their Laws Ruthann Robson * Whats Race Got to Do with It? Paula Ross * Creating Lesbian Families Heather Conrad and Kate Colwell * To Mother or Not to Mother Sylvia Blackstone * Our Children and Their Laws Ruthann Robson * Lesbian Parenting: Radical or Retrograde? Sondra Segal-Sklar * Pride and Prejudice Janet Linder * Mother of Stephen Louise G. Whitney * Public Schools/Private Lives Beth Rosen Sex and Gender Identity * Clit Notes Marny Hall * Psychic Armor Judith P. Stelboum * Body Piercing Yemaya KauriAlecto * Confessions of a Lesbian Vampire Amanda Kovattana * My First Dildo Slick Harris * Safer Sex Marcia Munson * My First Lover Betty Rose Dudley * Guessing Games Kath Weston * WYSIWYG (What You See Isnt What You Get) Rini Das * Butch Mothers, Femme Bull Dykes: Dismantling Our Own Stereotypes JoAnn Loulan * Double Trouble Lesla Newman * Black Lace Hairbow Greta Gaard The Public World * Lesbians in Corporate America Maria De La O * Tales of a Suburban Columnist Amanda Kovattana * She Tickles with a Hammer Donna Allegra * Outing and the Politics of the Closet Victoria A. Brownworth * Oy Veh, the Judge on the Bench Is a Dyke! Hon. Paula J. Hepner * Something Snapped Lee Lynch * San Francisco Spice Rack Anna Livia The Lesbian Body * Health Care Issues Karen F. Kerner * After the First Visit Margaret Robison * Another Story Victoria A. Brownworth * A Letter from Anita Kitty Tsui * Outlaws and Addicts: Lesbians and the Recovery Movement Jane Futcher * Who Cares? Lesbians As Caregivers Jeannine DeLombard * The Dog, the Cat, and the Activist Emily Rosenberg

About the Author

Karla Jay is Professor of English and Director of Women's Studies at Pace Unviersity. She has authored and edited eight books, including the pioneering Out of the Closets (with Allen Young), and has written for many publications, including the New York Times Book Review, Ms. magazine, New York Newsday, and the Village Voice.