Table of Contents

Introduction 1 Part I: Essentials of Emotionally Focused Therapy 5 Chapter 1: The Basics of Emotionally Focused Therapy 7 Chapter 2: Understanding the Power of Emotion in Relationships 17 Chapter 3: Organizing Your Emotional World 39 Chapter 4: Identifying the Three Levels of Emotional Experience 59 Part II: Emotionally Focused Therapy in Action: Moving from Problems to Patterns 73 Chapter 5: Finding Common Patterns of Conflict 75 Chapter 6: Finding Common Roles in Conflict 101 Chapter 7: Working Toward Fighting Less and Feeling Better 121 Part III: Finding Intimacy in New Ways 145 Chapter 8: Seeing through Withdrawing Eyes 147 Chapter 9: Seeing through Pursuing Eyes 159 Chapter 10: Facing Fears and Finding Each Other 171 Chapter 11: Overcoming Common Blocks 185 Chapter 12: Dealing with Infidelity 207 Part IV: Moving Forward Together 229 Chapter 13: Finding New Solutions to Old Problems 231 Chapter 14: Securing Your Future 255 Chapter 15: Working with a Couple Therapist 271 Part V: The Part of Tens 285 Chapter 16: Ten Questions to Ask a Therapist Before You Make an Appointment 287 Chapter 17: Ten Rituals to Bring You Closer293 Chapter 18: Ten Myths about Emotion and Relationships 301 Chapter 19: Ten Myths about Sex 309 Appendix: Resources 317 Index 321

About the Author

Brent Bradley, PhD, is Associate Professor of Family Therapy at the University of Houston-Clear Lake, and president of The Couple Zone (www.couplezone.org). Dr. Bradley is a certified emotionally focused couple therapist, supervisor, and trainer. James Furrow, PhD, is Professor of Marital and Family Therapy at the Fuller Graduate School of Psychology. Dr. Furrow is executive director of the Los Angeles Center for EFT and a certified emotionally focused couple therapist, supervisor, and trainer.