Neil D. Brown, LCSW, is a master psychotherapist who has worked with families, couples, and individuals for more than thirty years. Deeply steeped in the theory and practice of family therapy, Brown uses a systemic approach that allows him to understand the system, or context, in which problems are both formed and are healed. This approach has revealed a simple yet profound method of empowering parents and their adolescent youth to put an end to destructive control battles for good. Brown is a trainer of parents and mental health professionals. Additionally, Brown works in industry with teams and work groups to increase organizational effectiveness.
"Psychotherapist Brown offers a family-oriented approach to
teen-parent power struggles, illustrating how effective change will
require adjustments on both the parental and teen front ("It's not
the kid, it's not the parent--it's the pattern"). Brown offers
clear introductions to the three stages of adolescence,
demonstrating the typical developmental challenges followed by four
basic temperament types and how conflict between parent and child
can make common demands even trickier. Likening power struggles to
"The Beast," the author describes how to "starve" the metaphorical
creature of key nutrients such as reactivity and negative emotional
tones. VERDICT: Full of practical expectations, such as making
schoolwork a priority, helping out around the house, speaking
respectfully, and being a good role model to younger siblings,
Brown's work also provides sample dialogs and an encouraging style
that makes this holistic approach to what can be taxing years
thoughtful and encompassing. Warmly -recommended."
--Library Journalstarred review
"Neil Brown's Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle is an exhilarating read for anyone who lives or works with teens. You'll find a breakthrough insight on every page, from targeting the control battle and not the teens themselves, to simple fixes for reducing reactivity and negativity to stop control battles. No book on parenting teens has felt so fresh and filled with so much hard-won wisdom from decades in the consulting room as Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle. Brown's book is a gift to every parent of a teen."
--Lara Honos-Webb, PhD, author of The ADHD Workbook for Teens (www.addisagift.com)
"If you have faith in yourself, your teen, and the irrepressible power of family, you've struck gold with this book. Brown will guide you step by step through 'taming the Beast' that often arises when raising adolescents while guiding them to their highest potential."
--Edward Farrar, LMFT, child, adolescent, and family specialist in McMinnville, OR
"As a primary care physician trusted with the intricacies of family dynamics within the office setting, this book has become an instrumental tool in helping guide my communication between parents and adolescents. It has helped me begin and execute a plan to help families find help for destroying 'the Beast' that manifests not only as emotional complaints, but also physical symptoms in both parents and teens. But more importantly, it has given me guidance as I navigate my own family dynamic. I am blessed to be the mom of my own teen! Thank you, Neil Brown, for showing me how to refocus our relationship and to stay positive. I highly recommend this book to all families entering into the teen years!"
--Patricia Golden, DO, medical director of Wheaton Franciscan Medical Group-Ascension Health Care Central Market Wisconsin, and member of the American Academy of Family Practice
"As a marriage and family therapist for over thirty-six years, I have worked with adolescents and their families, and have encountered the control battles so insightfully described in Neil Brown's Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle. I thoroughly enjoyed reading the book for its clear language, warm tone, and pragmatic content. The metaphor of 'the Beast' gives therapists and parents a common language to describe the problem ('feeding the Beast') and implement solutions ('starving the Beast'). The section about the adolescent brain is also particularly helpful in describing and understanding adolescent behavior. I believe that this book can become an essential tool for therapists as well as parents in promoting effective ways to support and guide adolescents."
--Carmen Arriaga, LMFT, RN, marriage and family therapist and registered nurse in private practice, and adjunct faculty at Santa Clara University's graduate program in counseling psychology
"With diligence, creativity, and an unwavering desire to help families, Neil Brown has gifted both therapists and parents with this expert book. Engagingly written, it offers a fresh look at the 'parent-teen control battle, ' and clearly outlines a method for resolving it. Featuring a number of clinical vignettes, the book is not only practical, but illuminating and inspiring as well. From a psychiatrist's standpoint, I particularly appreciate how the book addresses certain physiological considerations in teens. Recent neuropsychological findings shed light on the development of the teenage brain, further reframing and 'normalizing' some of the challenges families face. Along with the methods set forth, this knowledge helps to ease the despair of both parents and teens caught in seemingly endless struggles. As a compassionate, widely respected therapist, Neil Brown provides both hope and direction to families seeking affirmative change."
--Andrew Kumasaka, MD, psychiatrist in private practice
"As a pediatrician and father, I found this book to be of the utmost importance for understanding the health and well-being of families. When addressing any family problem, from seemingly minor health issues to a devastating disease, we, as physicians, must acknowledge the unique dynamics of the family system. Everything I do as a pediatrician and parent involves these dynamics. The ideas from this book will enable the reader to clearly understand challenging dynamics with easy-to-understand advice to create healthy parent-teen relationships. I highly recommend this book for parents, therapists, educators, and healthcare practitioners working with adolescents."
--Garry Crummer, MD, integrative pediatrics practitioner in Santa Cruz, CA, and former clinical professor of pediatrics at the University of California, San Diego School of Medicine's Division of Community Pediatrics
"Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle defines a purposeful and mindful path through the often volatile minefield of life with a defiant teen. Neil Brown's strong, experienced, and always-to-the-point voice has helped our family clarify our problematic journey with our teen grandson. His book brings organization and rational thought to an often messy, disorderly family dynamic. It reminds parents to envision our child as his best self, and helps us to become our best parenting selves. Simply put, this book has provided us the knowledge, hope, and courage to greet each new teen-parenting day."
--Margaret Wilson, custodial grandparent
"Neil Brown's book cuts through the cultural myths that have left parents of adolescents shackled and confused. In clear, easy-to-understand steps, he creates road maps toward solutions and results. This book is a great resource for parents of 12- to 18-year-olds."
--Joe Newman, MA, author of Raising Lions
"Written with a profound respect for both teens and parents, Neil Brown traverses the rocky road of adolescence with wisdom and practicality. As a family therapist, I have experienced parent-teen control battles as one of the most challenging issues that many families face. This guide book is filled with realistic and relatable scenarios, extremely effective tools, and relationship-enhancing strategies. Parents, as well as therapists, will come away with a deep understanding of the stages and brain changes of adolescence, the potential pitfalls of parenting, and concrete steps to successfully navigate the challenges of raising a teen."
--Andrea Wachter, LMFT, psychotherapist, coauthor of Mirror, Mirror on the Wall and The Don't Diet; Live-It Workbook and author of Getting Over Overeating for Teens