Part One: The Four Things
Chapter 1: Saying the Four Things
Chapter 2: The Healing Power of Words
Chapter 3: Completing Relationships
Chapter 4: Transformations
Part Two: Forgiveness
Chapter 5: Loved Ones Live On Inside Us
Chapter 6: Resolving a Legacy of Pain
Chapter 7: The Emotional Economics of Forgiveness
Chapter 8: Extreme Acts of Forgiveness
Chapter 9: Forgiving Yourself
Chapter 10: Living with Uncertainty and Illness
Part Three: Thank You
Chapter 11: Practicing Gratitude
Chapter 12: The Unexpected Grace of Reconnection
Chapter 13: The Family Dynamics of Gratitude
Part Four: I Love You
Chapter 14: Creative Ways of Saying the Four Things
Chapter 15: Loving the Body
Chapter 16: Living Every Day as if It Were Your First -- or Last
Chapter 17: Lives Intertwined with Love
Part Five: Good-bye
Chapter 18: Nothing Left Unsaid
Chapter 19: The Mysterious Magic of Some Good-byes
Chapter 20: Good-byes That Are Gifts Through Time
Chapter 21: Good-byes That Celebrate Life
Afterword: Reflections Before Good-bye
Ira Byock, MD, is a leading palliative care physician, author, and
public advocate for improving care through the end of life. His
research and writing have helped to define quality of life and
quality of care for people living with advanced medical conditions.
He has been involved in hospice and palliative care since 1978 and
is a founding member and past president of the American Academy of
Hospice and Palliative Medicine. From 1996 through 2006, he served
as Director for Promoting Excellence in End-of-Life Care, a
national grant program of the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation.
Dr. Byock is Chief Medical Officer of the Institute for Human Caring of Providence Health and Services system. From 2003 through July 2013 he directed the palliative care program at Dartmouth-Hitchcock Medical Center in Lebanon, New Hampshire. Dr. Byock is a Professor of Medicine and Community & Family Medicine at the Geisel School of Medicine at Dartmouth.
More information is available at IraByock.org.
Caroline Myss Author of Sacred Contracts, Why People Don't Heal
and How They Can, and Anatomy of the Spirit The Four
Things That Matter Most is a book of commonsense wisdom that
has the power to dynamically change your life. It is a pleasure to
recommend a book that encourages you to transform the quality of
your life in simple ways that actually work.
Maggie Callanan Coauthor of Final Gifts A tender read I highly recommend. The Four Things That Matter Most offers simple but solid solutions for healing our complex and fragile relationships -- wisdom that will surely enrich our lives.
Larry Dossey, M.D. Author of Healing Beyond the Body, Reinventing Medicine, and Healing Words For anyone who believes that years of therapy are required for transforming relationships with others, this book will come as a pleasant surprise. Great wisdom has always been simple -- that is why it is elusive -- and great wisdom is what this book contains.
Joan Halifax, Ph.D. Author, Buddhist teacher, anthropologist, founder and director of Ojai Foundation, and founder, Upaya Foundation Ira Byock's compassionate and important work in the field of dying has given him the four great treasures of love and freedom that all of us can use throughout our life. This wonderful book opens the doors to these jewels of compassion.
Zorba Paster, M.D. Author of The Longevity Code, host of public radio's Zorba Paster on Your Health, and host of the public television special How to Live a Long, Sweet Life The Four Things That Matter Most provides simple, insightful words and stories that move the heart and the soul. Dr. Byock shows us a graceful way to nurture relationships and heal those that need mending.
"This beautiful book, full of wisdom and warmth, teaches us how to protect and preserve our most valuable possessions--the relationships with those we love. It shows that the things that matter definitely aren't 'things,' and how to empower your life in the right direction." -- Dr. Stephen R. Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People