About the Author
Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and personal trainer for
relationships, is a global leader on interpersonal conflict and
connection. He got tired of complaining that street-level
relationship skills are not taught in school, so he founded The
Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping
individuals, couples, and teams work out their differences in order
to have indestructible relationships. He is the creator of
Interpersonal Intelligence and Present Centered Relationship
Coaching and the Getting To Zero Method . He s been married to his
amazing wife since 2007 and has two beautiful kids. They live in
Boulder, Colorado.
Reviews
"Jayson Gaddis' excellent new book, Getting to Zero, is a
fabulous couple guide to conflict solutions interspersed with
inspirational self-disclosures of Jayson's own life and
relationship experiences. He provides valuable conceptual framing
and techniques for managing conflict. His detailed insights will be
of great value to readers interested in effective loving
relationships."
--Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, developer of the Psychobiological
Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) and author of We Do and Wired
for Love
"
Getting to Zero is the ultimate loving relationships guide
for anyone who would love to transform disconnection to connection,
conflict into communication, victim mentality into victory
mentality, survival into thrival, and inauthenticity into
authenticity."--Dr. John Demartini, international bestselling
author of The Values Factor
"
Getting to Zero holds the keys to deepening your
relationships and exponentially up-leveling your joy in life!
Jayson Gaddis has written the step-by-step guide on resolving
conflict from the inside out. As founder of The Relationship School
and relational expert, Jayson seamlessly untangles the complexity
of resolving conflict to makes the process accessible to all of us
if you want to be seen, heard, and understood in your
relationships."--Terri Cole, psychotherapist, relationship expert,
author of Boundary Boss
"
Getting to Zero is an excellent guidebook for anyone
looking to improve their conflict management skills. Jayson's
storytelling is impactful, his insights are wise, and his message
is clear and heartfelt."--"Coach Mike" Bayer, New York Times
bestselling author of Best Self and One Decision
"As a couples therapist, professor, and relationship educator, I am
excited to recommend
Getting to Zero to my clients and
students. Jayson Gaddis is a magnificent teacher--thoughtful, warm,
nerdy, practical, and wise. The approach he offers on these pages
is one that serves our bodies, our minds, our hearts, and our
souls. Dive in! You are going to be so glad you did... and the
people you love will be so glad too!"--Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD,
faculty, School of Education and Social Policy, Northwestern
University; author of Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back
"Finally a book that gets right to the heart of how to work with
relational conflict! Jayson Gaddis brilliantly helps the reader
understand what conflict is, why it arises and offers a roadmap
through these challenging times. His ability to weave together
psychology, human behavior and interpersonal dynamics leaves no
stone unturned. Thank you, Jayson, for your tremendous contribution
to this part of the human experience that many find themselves lost
in. This book is a must-read for everyone."--Lisa Dion, LPC, RPT-S,
President of the Synergetic Play Therapy Institute and creator of
Synergetic Play Therapy
"In this compelling guide to approaching conflict in our most
intimate relationships, Jayson Gaddis offers a science-informed,
practical toolbox for resolving the inevitable tensions that arise
in our personal and professional lives. Filled with useful concepts
and readily applicable steps to sensing and solving interpersonal
challenges, repairing ruptures when they occur, this book is
not about trying to achieve a life without difficulties in
our relationships, but
is about moving toward a receptive
state of calm and clarity--a state our author names as "zero"--in
which we can engage our inner life and our connections with others
with kindness and presence that research suggests are at the core
of mutually rewarding, generative ways of living with compassion,
connection, and well-being."--Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., Executive
Director, Mindsight Institute, New York Times bestselling author
IntraConnected; Mind; Mindsight, and Aware
"Jayson Gaddis has dedicated his life to understanding the
dizzyingly complex, emotionally-charged territory of relationships.
The knowledge he has accumulated is a gold mine for anyone looking
to create deep, fulfilling connections with others. This book is a
lifeline for anyone who has wondered how to thrive in
relationships."--Cory Muscara, Host of Mindfulness.com and Author
of Stop Missing Your Life
"Jayson Gaddis has done it! He has written a brilliant, practical
book that leaves no stone unturned in its quest for healthier
relationships. Far too many relationships fall apart because humans
have never been taught how to convert conflict into transformation.
This book stops the bleeding, and provides the tools and techniques
that every relationship needs to get to the other side."--Jeff
Brown, author of An Uncommon Bond and Grounded Spirituality
"Jayson Gaddis has written, in our view, one of the most clear and
helpful books on this endemic feature of our humanity: conflict. If
you want to know what conflict is and how to resolve it,
Getting
to Zero will give you to that destination. We recommend this
book to everyone who has ever felt that twitch which plunges us
into darkness. While it is replete with accessible theory about
what is happening in your mind and brain, it is even more generous
with practical guidance from that will lead you from conflict to
connection."--Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.
D. Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples