Part I: The Case for Conflict
Chapter 1: Conflict Debt
The Importance of Conflict
Identify the Conflict Debt in Your Business
Conflict Debt in Your Teams
The Cost to You Personally
Time to Make a Payment
Chapter 2: Conflict Aversion and Avoidance
What is Conflict Aversion?
Where Does Conflict Aversion Come From?
Conflict Aversion versus Conflict Avoidance
Chapter 3: A New Conflict Mindset
The Case Against Conflict
Kind is The New Nice
Get Off the Sidelines
Work Through the Emotion
Speak Truth to Power
A New Mindset
Part II: The Conflict Code
Chapter 4: Establish a Line of Communication
Increasing Your Trust in Others
Chapter 5: Create a Connection
Allies Not Adversaries
Facts Don't Solve Fights
Insights from Information
Follow the Emotion
Going for Gold: Uncovering People's Values and Beliefs
The Benefits of Getting to the Values
Creating a Connection
Chapter 6: Contribute to a Solution
Problems Not Solutions
Question the Impact
Own the Misunderstanding
Part III: Codifying Conflict
Chapter 7: The "U"
The U Tool
Other Issues to Explore
Using the U with the Government Team
Chapter 8: Normalize Tension
Learning from the Tarp
Chapter 9: The Conflict Habit
The Conflict Habit
Habit #1: Clarify Expectations
Habit #2: Introduce Diversity
Habit #3: Improve your feedback
Habit #4: Use humor and code words
Habit #5: Encourage productive conflict in meetings
Part IV: Try This at Home
Chapter 10: Try This at Home
Productive Conflict with Partners
Raising Conflict-resilient Kids
Volunteer Teams And Everywhere Else
Appendix A: How to Fill Out the U Template
Appendix B: How to Fill Out the Tarp Template
Dr. Liane Davey is a New York Times Bestselling author, a regular contributor to the Harvard Business Review, and the host of the ChangeYourTeam blog. As the co-founder of 3COze Inc., she advises on business strategy and executive team effectiveness and has worked with executives at companies such as Amazon, Walmart, Aviva, TD Bank, and SONY PlayStation. Liane has a Ph.D. in Organizational Psychology and has served as an evaluator for the American Psychological Association's Healthy Workplace Awards. Liane is married to her business partner, Craig, and they have two teenaged daughters.
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"Whether you're an organization of 10 or 10,000, the best solutions emerge when people feel comfortable sharing their ideas, even when what they have to say challenges the status quo. In The Good Fight, Davey shows leaders how to facilitate the productive, healthy conflict that's needed for teams to fully engage and give their best to the organization."
-HOWARD BEHAR, former president, Starbucks International, and author of It's Not about the Coffee: Lessons on Putting People First from a Life at Starbucks
"We feel the pain of having a conflict immediately. But the pain of avoiding a conflict is insidious and invisible, like a toxic gas. In The Good Fight, Liane Davey shows us how to clear the air without causing an explosion."
-KIM SCOTT, New York Times-bestselling author of Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss without Losing Your Humanity
"Growing up among eight siblings, my mother always taught me to 'use my words, not my fists' whenever there was conflict. This advice not only helped me out of a jam, but taught me not to back down if things needed to be said. Productive conflict resolution had begun! In Liane Davey's new book, The Good Fight, she uses her twenty-five years of team-building experience to effectively teach people how to resolve conflict the right way-head on! Her practical strategies are purposeful and wise, and will help create healthy habits, build trust within your team, and increase the bottom line! An excellent read!"
-DAVID M.R. COVEY, coauthor of Trap Tales: Outsmarting the 7 Hidden Obstacles to Success