Introduction Who's willing to work at growing up? Part 1: Understanding the relationship foundations of adult maturity 1. Becoming a self in our relationships 2. Real maturity or pretend maturity 3. Family ties that bind Part 2: Maturity for the first half of adult life 4. Leaving home and growing up 5. The single young adult 6. How marriage can grow people 7. Sex for grown-ups 8. Grown-up parenting Part 3: Being a grown-up beyond family 9. Off to work we go 10. Developing mature beliefs Part 4: Nurturing maturity in the face of set backs 11. Separation and divorce 12. Symptoms and setbacks Part 5: Maturity enhancement in the second half of life 13. Midlife 14. Ageing well 15. Old age and facing death Part 6: Broadening the focus 16. The grown-up helper 17. Society and self Epilogue Appendix 1: Summary questions for reflection Appendix 2: Mature connection and separateness Appendix 3: What are guiding principles? Appendix 4: Differentiation of self as a continuum Appendix 5: How to construct your family diagram Appendix 6: An overview of human development across the lifespan from a Bowen family systems perspective Appendix 7: Some Biblical reflections on relationships Notes Bibliography and further reading Acknowledgements Index
Jenny Brown, PhD, is founder and executive director of the Family Systems Institute and Family Systems Practice in Sydney, Australia, where she has a counselling practice and trains mental health professionals and organizations.