Fred Stoeker regularly writes and speaks to men about the subject of sexual purity. An experienced lay counselor, he lives with his wife and four children in the Des Moines, Iowa area. Brenda Stoeker is a registered nurse, mother of four, and seasoned marriage teacher with life experience in rebuilding a broken marriage. Together she and her husband, Fred, have counseled hundreds of couples struggling with issues related to sexual brokenness. Susan Allen is a counselor who specializes in helping women create and maintain effective healing groups in churches and communities across the country. With husband Clay, she is the cofounder of Avenue, a ministry centered on healing and restoration from sexual brokenness.
"A rare, close-up view of the healing journey. Brenda's and Susan's
parallel journeys-of wrestling with God and of finding support in
the community of women-speak of hope in the midst of brokenness,
acceptance in the face of unbelievable pain. Rather than allowing
the devastation to crush their lives, these bold women chose to
place their broken hearts and unmet dreams in God's holy hands.
With amazing vulnerability, they show how wives can restore their
fractured hearts, recover shattered marriages, and find help and
healing regardless of their husband's choices."
-Barbara Rosberg, co-host of the nationally-syndicated radio show Dr. Gary and Barb, Your Marriage Coaches and co-author of Six Secrets to a Lasting Love
"What an empowering, freeing book! In The Healing Choice,
Brenda and Susan open their lives and share how our choice to be
whole is not dependent on the actions or choices of our husbands.
Healing can begin now! Your life is not on hold until your husband
is free. Freedom is yours regardless of where your husband is in
his journey. Brenda and Susan, thanks for reaching beyond your pain
to pour life into others."
-Lisa Bevere, speaker, cofounder of Messenger International, and author of Fight Like a Girl and Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry
"This book hits very close to home. Fred's and Clay's struggle
with lust and pornography are very similar to mine. And just like
Susan, my wife came to the realization that to heal from such a
deception can only come from a deeper walk and intimacy with our
Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Brenda reminds all of us that nothing
can separate us from the love of Christ, and no matter what
horrible circumstances we may end up facing, whether it be a drawn
out tragic death of a dear loved one or a husband who has broken
his marriage vows time and time again, Christ ultimately provides
our hope of survival. Thank you, Brenda and Susan, for sharing your
hearts with us so that we can see how the power of God truly
transforms people here on earth."
-Michael O'Brien, singer/songwriter/musician and former lead singer of Newsong
"Although it can certainly feel like an overwhelming challenge,
complete forgiveness and healing isn't an unattainable goal.
Let Brenda's and Susan's insightful book walk you through the
restoration process step-by-step. It's a journey you'll be forever
glad you made."
-Shannon Ethridge, M.A., best-selling author of the Every Woman's Battle series and Completely His: Loving Jesus Without Limits
"The Stoekers and Allens continue to provide a message of
wholeness to all who have been fortunate enough to experience their
writings. Their contributions to the Body of Christ have been and
continue to be immeasurable."
-Mark Gungor, author of Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage
"If a spouse has tragically betrayed you then The Healing
Choice is one of the most important books you will ever pick up.
What you will discover is that the authors, Brenda and Susan, will
sensitively come alongside one of the darkest times of your life
and then guide you through what can be a powerfully redeeming
journey. Their wisdom comes not only out of their own pain, but
from the grace that helped them and those they've supported to
embrace restoration and hope."
-Randy Phillips, D.D., former President of Promise Keepers, President of Passage