Pia Mellody is an internationally renowned lecturer on the childhood origins of emotional dysfunc-tion. Her recovery work-shops have benefited people all over the world and her bestselling books have been translated into many languages. She is a member of the faculty at The Meadows Treatment Center, a residential center for victims of trauma, emotional abuse, and addictions, in Wickenburg, Arizona. Lawrence S. Freundlich has spent more than thirty years as a book publisher and editor. He is the coauthor of Blue Dog and founder of the New York media con-sultant firm Freundlich Communications.
A certified addiction counselor and registered nurse, Mellody (Facing Codependence), writing with the assistance of Freundlich (president of Freundlich Communications), offers a self-help guide based on the role of spirituality in intimate relationships. As a recovering alcoholic, Mellody experienced a profound love coming to her from God; this supportive love led her to develop the fairly complex program that she currently uses while counseling clients. The author believes that many children are traumatized by parents who either shame (disempower) their children or force them into a parental role (falsely empower). Labeling both actions as abusive, Mellody provides examples of how children treated this way can recover and function more happily in the adult world. She details here how to erect healthy physical, emotional and intellectual boundaries that will foster rather than hamper intimacy and boost self-esteem. For example, she advises that affectionate approaches require controlled containment, e.g., when deciding to engage others in sexual intimacy, it is necessary to respect their physical boundaries by asking permission. In order to really communicate, people in close relationships should maintain other boundaries such as refraining from giving unasked-for advice, accusing or making judgments. Appended is an example of a "feeling reduction" workshop conducted at a residential treatment center where Mellody practices. According to the author, these workshops are central to overcoming trauma and abuse. Devotees of Mellody's earlier books will be the most interested in this latest offering. (June) Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
"With vast experience and insight, Pia Mellody continues to bring
to her reader an empowering experience."----Claudia Black, Ph.D.
author of It Will Never Happen To Me
"A splendid example of her pioneering and cutting edge work....This book can change your life."--John Bradshaw, author of the #1 New York Times bestellers Homecoming and Creating Love
"[Mellody] details here how to erect healthy...boundaries that will foster rather than hamper intimacy and boost self-esteem.--Publishers Weekly
..".a wonderful book....very useful to those starting recovery to see the purpose of the language of boundaries."----Patrick Carnes, PhD, CAS, author of Out of the Shadows and Don't Call It Love