Table of Contents

Preface to the Second Edition
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Livui Ruchani: Spiritual Accompaniment
Rabbi Dayle A. Friedman

SECTION I
Foundational Concepts for Jewish Pastoral Care
Wresting Blessings: A Pastoral Response to Suffering
Rabbi Myriam Klotz
Complexity and Imperfection: A Theology of Jewish Pastoral Care
Rabbi Rochelle Robins
PaRDeS: A Model for Presence in Livui Ruchani
Rabbi Dayle A. Friedman
Bikur Cholim: A Paradigm for Pastoral Caring
Rabbi Joseph S. Ozarowski
Seeking the Tzelem: Making Sense of Dementia
Rabbi Dayle A. Friedman

SECTION II
Basic Tools for the Jewish Pastoral Caregiver
Foundations of Jewish Pastoral Care: Skills and Techniques
Barbara Eve Breitman
Prayer and Presence
Rabbi Anne Brener
The Power of Custom-Made Prayers
Rabbi Bonita E. Taylor
From the Depths: The Use of Psalms
Rabbi Simkha Y. Weintraub
God Is in the Text: Using Sacred Text and Teaching in Jewish Pastoral Care
Rabbi Sheldon Marder
Spiritual Nurture for Jewish Pastoral Caregivers
Rabbi Nancy Flam

SECTION III
Jewish Pastoral Care for Specific Needs and Settings
Jewish Spiritual Care in the Acute Care Hospital
Rabbi Jeffery M. Silberman
Preparing for the Chupah: Premarital Counseling
Rabbi Ellen Jay Lewis
Responding to Domestic Violence
Gus Kaufman, Jr., Wendy Lipshutz, and Rabbi Drorah Setel
Confronting Addiction
Marcia Cohn Spiegel and Rabbi Yaacov Kravitz
Loving the Stranger: Accompanying Individuals with Chronic Mental Disorders
Rabbi Karen Sussan
Letting Their Faces Shine: Accompanying Aging People and Their Families
Rabbi Dayle A. Friedman
Walking in the Valley of the Shadow: Caring for the Dying and Their Loved Ones
Rabbi Amy Eilberg
Grief and Bereavement
Simcha Paull Raphael
Jewish Spiritual Care in the Wake of Disaster
Rabbi Stephen Roberts
Para-Chaplaincy: A Communal Response to the Ill and Suffering
Rabbi David J. Zucker

Glossary
Index of Terms and Concepts
Index of Classical Sources Cited (Biblical and Rabbinic)

About the Author

Rabbi Dayle A. Friedman, MSW, MA, BCC, is a pioneer in forging a fresh vision for the second half of life. She is a spiritual leader, social innovator, scholar, author of Jewish Visions for Aging: A Professional Guide to Fostering Wholeness and editor of Jewish Pastoral Care: A Practical Handbook from Traditional and Contemporary Sources. She founded and directed Hiddur: The Center for Aging and Judaism of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College. Rabbi Friedman offers training, consulting and spiritual guidance through Growing Older (www.growingolder.co), her Philadelphia-based national practice.

Rabbi Friedman is available to speak to your group or at your event. For more information, please contact us at (802) 457-4000 or publicity@jewishlights.com.

Barbara Breitman, DMin, is assistant professor of pastoral
counseling at the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College, where
she helped found the program in spiritual direction. A pioneer in the
field of Jewish spiritual direction, she is cofounder of Lev Shomea, a
training program at Isabella Freedman Jewish Retreat Center, and
coeditor, with Rabbi Howard A. Addison, of Jewish Spiritual Direction:
An Innovative Guide from Traditional and Contemporary Sources
(Jewish Lights Publishing). An experienced psychotherapist with a
special interest in trauma, somatic awareness, mindfulness, and resilience,
she maintains a private practice with individuals and couples
in Philadelphia.

Rabbi Anne Brener, MAJCS, MA, LCSW, is a Los Angeles-based psychotherapist and spiritual director who has assisted institutions worldwide in creating caring communities. A prolific writer, she is the author of the acclaimed Mourning & Mitzvah: A Guided Journal for Walking the Mourner's Path Through Grief to Healing (Jewish Lights Publishing). She is a faculty member at the Academy for Jewish Religion, California, and the Morei Derekh program of the Yedidya Center for Jewish Spiritual Direction.

Rabbi Amy Eilberg, MSW, is the first woman ordained as a Conservative rabbi by the Jewish Theological Seminary. After many years of work in pastoral care, hospice, and spiritual direction, Rabbi Eilberg now directs interfaith dialogue programs in the Twin Cities, including at the Jay Phillips Center for Interfaith Learning and the St. Paul Interfaith Network. She teaches the art of compassionate listening and is deeply engaged in peace and reconciliation efforts in connection
with the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, as well as with issues of conflict within the Jewish community.

Rabbi Nancy Flam is cofounder of the National Center for Jewish Healing and former director of the Jewish Community Healing Program of Ruach Ami: Bay Area Jewish Healing Center. She cofounded the Institute for Jewish Spirituality, was its founding director, and now serves as codirector of programs. She edited the Jewish Lights series of pastoral-care pamphlets, LifeLights, and writes and teaches widely on Judaism, healing, prayer, spirituality, and social justice.

Rabbi Dayle A. Friedman, MSW, MA, BCC, is a pioneer in forging a fresh vision for the second half of life. She is a spiritual leader, social innovator, scholar, author of Jewish Visions for Aging: A Professional Guide to Fostering Wholeness and editor of Jewish Pastoral Care: A Practical Handbook from Traditional and Contemporary Sources. She founded and directed Hiddur: The Center for Aging and Judaism of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College. Rabbi Friedman offers training, consulting and spiritual guidance through Growing Older (www.growingolder.co), her Philadelphia-based national practice.

Rabbi Friedman is available to speak to your group or at your event. For more information, please contact us at (802) 457-4000 or publicity@jewishlights.com.

Gus Kaufman, Jr., PhD, is a clinical psychologist, speaker, trainer, and social activist in Atlanta, Georgia, who has been working for decades to end male violence toward women. He cofounded the Jewish Advisory Committee of the Center for the Prevention of Sexual and Domestic Violence in Seattle and was one of the founders of the Shalom Bayit Committee of Atlanta's Jewish Family & Career Services. He currently is developing new approaches to intervention with abusive men and boys with his organization Retreat from Violence. He has lectured and taught around the U.S., Europe, and Israel.

Rabbi Myriam Klotz, MA, is director of yoga and embodied practices at the Institute of Jewish Spirituality. She is also codirector of yoga and Jewish spirituality teacher training at the Isabella Freedman Jewish Retreat Center/Elat Chayyim Center for Jewish Spirituality. Rabbi Klotz is also a spiritual director at the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College and elsewhere.

Rabbi Yaacov Kravitz, EdD, is a licensed psychologist and pastoral counselor in private practice specializing in mindfulness-based therapies for emotional disorders, addictions, and chronic physical illnesses. He is also president of the Center for Spiritual Intelligence, Inc., an Internet-based provider of educational materials, instruction, and consultation for spiritual growth and personal empowerment. Through the Center he has developed a comprehensive program for learning the skills of spiritual intelligence based on the ancient mystical teachings of Kabbalah and the insights of modern psychology. Rabbi Kravitz is author of Pathways to Recovery: Sources and Spiritual Tools for a Jewish Twelve Step Practice and Nurturing Your Soul: An Introduction to Mindfulness, Spiritual Meditation and Kabbalah.

Rabbi Ellen Jay Lewis, NCPsyA, is a licensed psychoanalyst in private practice in Bernardsville, New Jersey, and New York City. She is also a fellow in the American Association of Pastoral Counselors. After her ordination at Hebrew Union College–Jewish Institute of Religion in 1980, she served congregations in Dallas, Texas, and Summit, New Jersey, where she was named Rabbi Honorata. Since 1994, she has been rabbi of the Jewish Center of Northwest Jersey in Washington,
New Jersey. Rabbi Lewis has designed and implemented models of clinical supervision for rabbis, cantors, and other members of the clergy.

Wendy Lipshutz, LMSW, is program director of the Shalom Bayit Program and Project Connect at Jewish Family & Career Services in 302 Kaufman, Lipshutz, Setel Atlanta, Georgia, and a former member of the Jewish Advisory Committee of the Center for the Prevention of Sexual and Domestic
Violence. She is a board member of the Georgia Coalition Against Domestic Violence, and of Tapestri, a coalition challenging genderbased oppression. An activist, battered women's advocate, and licensed social worker, she has worked to end violence against women for over two decades.

Rabbi Sheldon Marder is chaplain of the Jewish Home in San Francisco, California, where he directs the Department of Jewish Life and provides pastoral care. He is a contributor to That You May Live Long: Caring for Our Aging Parents, Caring for Ourselves (Union for Reform Judaism Press) and The World Is a Narrow Bridge: Stories That Celebrate Hope and Healing (Sweet Louise Productions). Marder is a member of the Senior Resource Faculty (SeRaF), a project that develops leadership and resources for the Jewish healing movement through the partnership of the National Center for Jewish Healing, the Kalsman Institute on Judaism and Health (Hebrew Union College), and the Nathan Cummings Foundation.

Rabbi Joseph S. Ozarowski, DMin, was ordained as an Orthodox rabbi at Chicago's Hebrew Theological College and received his doctorate from Lancaster (Pa.) Theological Seminary. He has had a distinguished career spanning over two decades as a pulpit rabbi, educator, author, and chaplain. He serves as rabbinic chaplain to the Jewish
Healing Network of Chicago and as the rabbi of Congregation Chovevei Tzion in Skokie, Illinois. Rabbi Ozarowski is a leader in the field of pastoral care and Judaism. He has been a governing board member of the Bikur Cholim Coordinating Council (New York), and also served as staff Jewish chaplain at New York University Medical Center, where he created the first professional Jewish presence at the extensive hospital campus. His published works include To Walk in God’s Ways: Jewish Pastoral Perspectives on Illness and Bereavement (Rowman and Littlefield), and he coauthored Common Ground (Jason Aronson Publishers) as well as numerous articles and curricula.

Simcha Paull Raphael, PhD, completed his doctorate in psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies, and received ordination from Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi as a rabbinic pastor. He works as a psychotherapist, bereavement counselor, and spiritual director, affiliated
with Mt. Airy Counseling Center in Philadelphia, and is adjunct assistant professor in the Jewish Studies Program at Temple University. For the past two decades, Dr. Raphael has worked as a
death awareness educator, teaching and leading workshops on death and the afterlife in Judaism. He has also worked as a hospice counselor and as resident psychologist in a Jewish funeral home. He is author of Jewish Views of the Afterlife, and is presently in a program of
rabbinic ordination at the Academy for Jewish Religion in Riverdale, New York. His website is www.simcharaphael.com.

Rabbi Stephen B. Roberts, MBA, MHL, BCJC, is the editor of Professional Spiritual & Pastoral Care: A Practical Clergy and Chaplain's Handbook and coeditor of Disaster Spiritual Care: Practical Clergy Response to Community, Regional and National Tragedy (both SkyLight Paths Publishing). He is a past president of the National Association of Jewish Chaplains. Most recently he served as the associate executive vice president of the New York Board of Rabbis, directing their chaplaincy program, providing services in more than fifty locations throughout New York, and serving as the endorser for both New York State's and New York City's Jewish chaplains. Prior to this he served as the director of chaplaincy of the Beth Israel Medical System (New York), overseeing chaplains and clinical pastoral education (CPE) programs at three acute care hospitals, one behavioral health hospital, and various outpatient facilities served by chaplains.

Rabbi Rochelle Robins was ordained by the Hebrew Union College–Jewish Institute of Religion in 1998. Rabbi Robins is the Director of Clinical Pastoral Education (CPE) at the Academy for Jewish Religion in Los Angeles. She also supervises CPE at Sharp HealthCare in San Diego. Rabbi Robins's expertise also includes designing Jewish feminist curricula, not-for-profit organizational development, and advising interfaith cross-cultural coalition-building ventures.

Rabbi Drorah Setel, MTS, has addressed violence against Jewish women as a scholar and activist for over twenty years. Her work has included cofounding the first national network concerned with abuse within the Jewish community. Rabbi Setel lives in Seattle, Washington.

Rabbi Jeffery M. Silberman, DMin, is director of pastoral care and education at Norwalk Hospital in Norwalk, Connecticut. He holds degrees from the University of Dayton, Hebrew Union College–Jewish Institute of Religion, and Andover Newton Theological School. He founded the National Association of Jewish Chaplains and became its first president. He serves as adjunct faculty at the Jewish Theological Seminary and at New York Theological Seminary. Previously, he was director of spiritual care and pastoral education at UCSF–Mount Zion Medical Center in San Francisco, and also served as codirector of pastoral care and education at Lenox Hill Hospital in Manhattan.

Marcia Cohn Spiegel, MAJCS, Hebrew Union College–Jewish Institute of Religion, was one of the first people to describe the problem of alcoholism in the Jewish community. She is the founder of the Alcohol/Drug Action Program of Jewish Family Service, Los Angeles, and also of L'Chaim: Twelve Steps to Recovery. She served on the Los Angeles County Commission on Alcoholism working with special populations.

Rabbi Karen Sussan is a licensed social worker and licensed mental health counselor. She is an American Association of Pastoral Counselors fellow, and a certified pastoral psychotherapist in private practice in Rockland County, New York, and at the Creative Living Counseling Center in Bergen County, New Jersey. She is also a boardcertified Jewish chaplain and has worked as a New York State mental health chaplain for two decades.

Rabbi Bonita E. Taylor, DMin, BCC, is associate director of the Department of Clinical Pastoral Education and an ACPE supervisor at HealthCare Chaplaincy in New York City. She is also adjunct faculty at the Academy for Jewish Religion, where she was named faculty member of the year. Rabbi Taylor is a board-certified chaplain by the National Association of Jewish Chaplains (NAJC), where she is vice president of the board. The NAJC has honored her for exemplary leadership in professional chaplaincy education. The New York Board of Rabbis has twice named her a chaplain of the year, once for her service in the aftermath of 9/11. Her writing has appeared in numerous professional and popular publications.

Rabbi Simkha Y. Weintraub, LCSW, is the rabbinic director of the New York Jewish Healing Center and the National Center for Jewish Healing at the Jewish Board of Family and Children's Services in New York City. He is the author of Healing of Soul, Healing of Body: Spiritual Leaders
Unfold the Strength and Solace in Psalms (Jewish Lights Publishing) and Guide Me Along the Way: A Jewish Spiritual Companion for Surgery (National Center for Jewish Healing).

Rabbi David J. Zucker, PhD, BCC, is chaplain and director of spirituality at Shalom Park in Aurora, Colorado. A former congregational rabbi and Jewish community chaplain, he served as an officer and board member of the National Association of Jewish Chaplains, and chaired several national NAJC conferences. He also served as Colorado chair of the Association of Professional Chaplains. His writing is widely published (see www.davidjzucker.org). His most recent book is The Torah: An Introduction for Christians and Jews.