Jessica Fern is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma and relationship expert. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Naava Smolash, who sometimes writes under the pen name Nora Samaran, is the author of Turn This World Inside Out: The Emergence of Nurturance Culture (AK Press, 2019). Eve Rickert is the co-author of More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (Thorntree Press, 2014).
"Polysecure provides a roadmap for people who want to establish
emotionally intimate and securely attached relationships with
multiple partners. One of the most important insights is that
secure attachment is a product of relationship experiences, rather
than relationship structures." -- Dr Elisabeth Sheff, author of The
Polyamorists Next Door, Stories from the Polycule, When Someone You
Love is Polyamorous, and Children in Polyamorous Families
"Secure attachment is absolutely central to successful polyamorous
relationships, and insecure attachment is at the core of the
jealousy and other challenges in open relationships of all kinds.
This book can help poly people, as well as clinicians, get to the
heart of their struggles and pain. It can help them to take
concrete steps to become more comfortable with their nonmonogamous
relationships and trust their partner's love and commitment. This
is required reading for people in open relationships and should be
used as a textbook for every therapist who works with people in
polyamorous relationships." -- Kathy Labriola, counselor, nurse,
and author of The Polyamory Breakup Book
"Gives people a way to understand how they may be recreating old
patterns by bringing their own childhood attachment styles into
their adult relationships. More importantly, it offers concrete
skills for how to use this knowledge to create healthier, more
satisfying and secure relationship dynamics." -- Max Rivers, author
of Loving Conflict: How Conflict Is Really Your Relationship Trying
to Go Deeper
"I whole-heartedly recommend this book to anyone interested in
self-acceptance and self-mastery, as well as their own emotional
well-being as they build loving, sustainable, healthy multiple
relationships." -- Kitty Chambliss, relationship coach and author
of Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy and Secure in
an Open Relationship
"Anyone even considering nonmonogamy would benefit from reading
Polysecure . Jessica Fern does an excellent job of not only
explaining attachment theory and applying it to nonmonogamy but
also offering real steps readers can take and skills they can hone
to help create the secure, satisfying relationships they want." --
JoEllen Notte, sex educator and author of The Monster Under the
Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having
"This is my favorite kind of book. Not only does it dissect the
intricacies of interpersonal dynamics into fun charts and lists,
but it also provides a helpful how-to for applying this information
in your actual relationships, and to every aspect of your own life.
I'm suggesting it to all my therapist friends immediately!" --
Tikva Wolf, creator of Kimchi Cuddles and author of It's OK,
Feelings, I Got You and Love, Retold.
"Smart, readable, path-setting, and deeply caring. And practical.
Jessica Fern presents abundant material that will inform
poly-friendly therapists everywhere, and she offers six particular
strategies that will help polyfolks and their beloveds to become
more "polysecure" in their relationships." Lindsay Hayes, Polyamory
in the News
" Polysecure is a must-read for polyamorous folks and for
therapists with clients who are practicing consensual non-monogamy.
However, I believe that its insights and messages could open doors
for people who have, or are hoping to find, a single partner. We
all carry unconscious beliefs about what love is and what it can
beand we can all benefit from asking ourselves if those beliefs
really are leading us to the love we need." Jeremy Adam Smith,
Greater Good Magazine
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