Table of Contents

• : introduction
• : overview
• : before you begin
• 01: ACT don’t react
• : in the heat of the moment
• : the ACT formula
• : ‘the Autoparent’
• : ACT in practice
• : how to remember ACT
• : summary
• 02: understanding yourself as a parent
• : parenting pressures
• : the parenting style graph
• : your own experience of parenting styles
• : your own parenting styles
• : the oxygen mask
• : summary
• 03: understanding your child’s behaviour
• : the link between behaviour, feelings and needs
• : the fountain of needs
• : when needs are not met
• : bearing needs in mind
• : basic human needs
• : summary
• 04: valuing your child
• : valuing your children
• : showing you care
• : difficult times
• : the importance of touch
• : building confidence and resilience
• : celebrating difference
• : summary
• 05: recognizing feelings
• : emotional literacy
• : basic feelings in mammals
• : identifying feelings
• : layers of feelings
• : awareness of feelings
• : summary
• 06: dealing with feelings
• : denying feelings
• : acknowledging feelings
• : mixed feelings
• : verbal and non-verbal approaches
• : worries
• : self talk
• : expressing feelings
• : summary
• 07: anger and tantrums
• : what is anger?
• : in what ways is anger useful?
• : the dangers of ignoring anger
• : parents’ relationships
• : prevention is better than cure
• : first aid
• : what to do when your children are angry
• : tantrums
• : summary
• 08: encouraging co-operation and
• • : positive feelings
• : the value of play and playfulness
• : the power of language
• : giving choices
• : giving responsibility gives confidence
• : nag busters
• : positive attention
• summary: 145
• 09: skilled listening
• : being someone to tell
• : blocks to confiding
• : being a helper
• : empathy: listening with heart and mind
• : skilled listening
• : when skilled listening is not appropriate
• summary: 163
• 10: problem solving
• : a model for problem solving
• : challenging limiting beliefs
• : problems without a solution
• : problems which need adult intervention
• : summary
• 11: boundaries and freedom
• : what are boundaries and why are they important
• : family values and rules
• : keeping boundaries
• : challenging unacceptable behaviour
• : the discipline of consequences
• : thinking time
• : being firm
• : boundaries and the outside world
• summary: 200
• 12: tackling sibling conflict
• : causes of conflict
• : battles for love and attention
• : status battles
• : dealing with fights
• : selective attention
• : playing or hurting?
• : bullying in the family
• : model for negotiation
• summary: 222
• 13: time to talk about difficult issues
• : conflict, separation and divorce
• : death and bereavement
• : talking about sex and relationships
• : alcohol, smoking and drugs
• : summary
• 14: happiness
• : happiness derived from meeting needs
• : connectedness
• : parental guidance
• : the value of satisfaction and creativity
• : the other side of the coin
• : resilience and optimism
• : thankfulness
• : giving and receiving
• : nature and walking
• : moral and spiritual happiness
• : postscript
• : taking it further
• : index

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About the Author

Glenda Weil and Doro Marden have more than 30 years combined experience of running courses for parents, and have 7 children between them. They both work with leading parenting charity Parentline Plus.

Reviews

This is a parenting book which stands out from the crowd - Sue Gerhardt, author of Why Love MattersThe most practical and helpful parenting book I have come across - The Mule Blog