CONTENTS
Foreword by Keith Ferrazzi ix
Introduction 1
SECTION 1 The Problem: Why Are You Struggling to Influence People? 5
1 The Dangers of “Disconnect” 7
2 Four Traps That “Disconnect” You 18
3 The Four Steps to Connecting and Influencing 33
SECTION 2 STEP #1 Go for Great Outcomes 41
4 The First “R”: Go for a Great Result 43
5 The Second “R”: Go for a Great Reputation 52
6 The Third “R”: Go for Great Relationships 66
SECTION 3 STEP #2 Listen Past Your Blind Spot 81
7 To Discover Their There, Listen to the Music 83
8 Master Level-Four Listening 91
9 To Influence, Be Influenceable 107
SECTION 4 STEP #3 Engage Them in Their There 119
10 Use the Three Gets of Engage 121
11 Push Their Buttons— Positively 135
12 Engage Across Cultures 144
SECTION 5 STEP #4 When You’ve Done Enough . . . Do More 155
13 Do More Before, During, and After 157
14 Do More in All Three Value Channels 171
15 Ask Other People to Do More 183
SECTION 6 Taking Real Influence to the Next Level 191
16 Let Adversity Lead You to Great Outcomes 193
17 Influence by Getting Out of the Way 203
18 Influence Positively After You’ve Made Big Mistakes 210
19 Let Gratitude Magnify Your Influence 219
SECTION 7 Putting It All Together 227
20 Case Study #1—A Fuzzy Rescue 229
21 Case Study #2—Everything Matters 234
22 Case Study #3—Poised for Life 237
23 Case Study #4—Taming a Temperamental Group 241
Epilogue 245
Acknowledgments 247
Index 251
About the Authors 259
Mark Goulston, MD, is a business advisor, consultant, coach,
speaker, and psychiatrist. The author of Get Out of Your Own Way
and other popular books, he blogs for Harvard Business Review, Fast
Company, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, and Psychology
Today; and he is featured frequently in major media, including The
Wall Street Journal, Fortune, Newsweek, Time, CNN, Fox News, and
the TODAY Show.
JOHN ULLMEN, PH.D., is an acclaimed executive coach whose clients
include dozens of leading international firms. He oversees
MotivationRules.com, conducts popular feedback-based seminars on
influence in organizations, and teaches at the UCLA Anderson School
of Management.
"[Real Influence] offers a full course banquet of fresh ideas for the price of a modest dinner." --Inland Empire Business Journal
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