A consultant and trainer to 120 U.S. independent and public schools, KIM JOHN PAYNE, MA, has been a school counselor for more than 20 years and a private family therapist for 17. He has also consulted for the South African Schools Federation, the Hungarian Ministry of Education, and educational associations in Israel, Russia, Australia, and the United Kingdom. Payne has worked extensively with the American and UK Waldorf movements. He is currently Project Director of the Waldorf Collaborative Counseling Program at Antioch University, the Director of a large research program on a drug-free approach to attention disorders, and a founding member of the Alliance for Childhood in Washington, DC. The author of the popular parenting guide, Simplicity Parenting, he lives with his wife and two children near Northampton, Massachusetts.
Advance praise for The Soul of Discipline "The Soul of Discipline offers practical tools for helping parents implement discipline that's respectful and effective, but the book is so much more. Kim John Payne offers a framework to guide parents in making decisions about why, when, and how to hold tighter reins as we build skills in our children, and why, when, and how to loosen the reins as we scaffold freedom."--Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., co-author of No-Drama Discipline "This book gets deep inside the challenge of getting along with children and teens and thinks deeply about what they need from us to become strong and self-managing. It elevates discipline to what it should be--a caring process of helping kids orient to the world and live in it happily and well."--Steve Biddulph, author of The New Manhood "Kim Payne provides a useful model for choosing our parenting stance--Governor, Gardener, or Guide--depending on the situation. Most powerfully, Payne begins with the radical view that children are not disobedient but rather disoriented. The upshot of this shift in perspective is that discipline is about helping children orient themselves effectively, not about controlling or chastising."--Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., author of Playful Parenting "The Soul of Discipline draws on Kim John Payne's years of gifted school and family counseling to show us with its clear and simple tone how to discipline without becoming our children's enemy. It is filled with memorable stories, dialogues that will engage your imagination, and great strategies. By the book's end, a new picture of parenting will live in you, one that will honor the soul of your children as you provide the structure, training, and guidance they need at each stage of their development."--Dee Joy Coulter, Ed.D., author of Original Mind