PART I: UNDERSTANDING THE CARETAKER ROLE
INTRODUCTION: HOW CAN I TELL IF I’M A CARETAKER?
1: IS MY PARTNER REALLY A BORDERLINE OR NARCISSIST?
2: WHY THE BORDERLINE/NARCISSIST NEEDS A CARETAKER
3: LEARNING TO BE A CARETAKER
4: CARETAKING INVOLVEMENT LEVELS
5: EMOTIONAL DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERS
6: THOUGHT DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERS
7: BEHAVIORAL DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERS
8: DISTORTIONS IN THE SENSE OF SELF
9: RELATIONSHIP DISTORTIONS OF CARETAKERS
PART II: LETTING GO OF CARETAKING
INTRODUCTION: HOW DO I MAKE CHANGES?
10: STAGES OF HEALING
11: CHALLENGING THE BP/NP FAMILY RULES
12: BEGINNING TO HEAL: EMBRACING NEW BELIEFS AND BEHAVIORS
13: INCREASING YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE
14: NURTURING AND CARING FOR YOURSELF
15: ANXIETY REDUCING SKILLS WITH THE BP/NP
16: CHANGE CREATING SKILLS WITH THE BP/NP
17: LEAVING OR STAYING
PART III – REBUILDING
INTRODUCTION: HOW DOES IT LOOK TO NOT BE A CARETAKER?
18: MOVING FORWARD IN A HEALTHY WAY
19: REACHING OUT TO OTHERS
20: THE NEW YOU
APPENDIX I: CARETAKER TEST
BIBLIOGRAPHY
Margalis Fjelstad, PhD, LMFT, has a private psychotherapy practice in Ft. Collins, CO, specializing in work with clients who are in relationship to someone who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, and she facilitates groups on Caretaker recovery. She has previously been an Adjunct Faculty member at Regis University in Colorado Springs and at California State University in Sacramento.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading Fjelstad´s book and I found it
informative, exciting, and above all very well written. Fjelstad is
truly honest and frank about the fact that the borderline and
narcissist are mentally ill and unwilling to change. She is open
about the fact that caretakers too get something from the situation
and that it is up to them to break the cycle of caretaking since
the BP or NP is not going to change their ways. Fjelstad's advice
is well thought out and practical which makes them easier to follow
and she provides the reader with specific ideas and examples to how
the caretaker can make the changes needed to rid themselves of the
power that the BP or NP has over them. . . . [T]he book is
excellent material for anyone that is living with or has any
involvement with a BP or a NP, close or distant, since the book
fosters understanding of the disorders and the need of the
caretaker. The book can be of great use to psychology student,
especially those in clinical psychology or those focusing on
personality disorders.
*Metapsychology Online*
Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist is refreshingly
no-nonsense, provides lots of useful hints on how to put this
self-care model into practice while at the same time informing
thoroughly and in no uncertain terms about the BP/NP's view of the
world. It is a most helpful book!
*Addiction / Sucht / Adicción*
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