A personal and sociological examination-and ultimately a celebration-of the evolution of female friendship in pop culture and modern society
Kayleen Schaefer is a journalist and author of the bestselling Kindle Single memoir Fade Out. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, The New Yorker, Vogue, and many other publications. She currently lives in New York City, and Text Me When You Get Home is her first book.
Praise for Text Me When You Get Home
“A memoir of female friendship issues a call to action for BFFs
everywhere.”—The New York Times Book Review
“Text Me has the thrills and laughs of a romantic comedy, but
with an inverted message: ‘There just isn't only one love story in
our lives,’ Schaefer writes. If you're lucky, friends will be the
protagonists in these multiple love stories. It's high time that we
start seeing it that way.”—NPR.org
“Schaefer traces the evolution of female friendship in this
thoughtfully reported book. Its insightful cultural criticism makes
for an especially valuable read in the #MeToo era.”—Entertainment
Weekly
“Uplifting.”—People
“Text Me When You Get Home is journalist Kayleen Schaefer’s love
letter to her friends. Schaefer rejects the idea that women’s
friendships are rife with dysfunction and that women themselves are
somehow dysfunctional, a concept that she shows remains strong in
popular culture…Schaefer shows that, contrary to pop culture’s
emphasis on catfights and frenemies, women’s friendships are
stabilizing and joyful.”—The Washington Post
“[A] witty, deep memoir [that] digs into the power and the glory of
female friendships...Where to start unpacking the good news that
Kayleen Schaefer broadcasts in her timely, nimble, essential
memoir...Every page of this book has something valuable to impart
about the necessity of fostering female bonds and tending them with
the same care we give to our relationships with family, spouses,
and children.”—Elle
“Reading Text Me When You Get Home feels like
experiencing its subject—the intimate, slow-burning, miraculously
comfortable thrill of making and keeping a lifelong friend. Kayleen
Schaefer’s affectionate and clear-sighted exploration of female
friendship is as romantic as a movie and as honest as the
conversation on the third day of a road trip; reading it is as
delightful as walking into a bar on a weeknight to see your friend
already seated and ordering your drink.”—Jia Tolentino, staff
writer at The New Yorker
“Schaefer certainly puts friends first in Text Me When You Get
Home, a love letter to the power of female friendships in a world
that would rather believe women are catty. From the friendship
stories of everyday women to the evolution of cultural
representation of women’s friendships, this uplifting book
celebrates the friends who can be just as important (or more so)
than our romantic partners.”—Parade.com
“Illuminating and uplifting… Text Me When You Get Home will
remind you of what a good friendship is supposed to look like, and
inspire you to nurture your relationships with the strong women
around you.”—Bustle
“A hopeful celebration of women's friendships.”—Kirkus Reviews
“The title speaks for itself: I constantly say those exact words to
my friends when we part ways or to my sister when she goes out for
a run alone...Schaefer’s work is a great addition to this trend
(and your bookshelf).” —Outside Magazine
“Schaefer creates a beautiful portrait of how modern female
friendship has evolved to be a positive force that is making women
stronger than ever....She artfully explains how the intense bond we
experience as friends carries us through many different eras of our
lives and dispels the idea that female friends are less
important than romantic relationships, family, or careers....You
will find something in this book that will make you want to text
your own person and tell her how much she means to you.”—Buzzfeed,
Favorite Books of 2018
“‘Text me when you get home.’ Those six words aren't just about
getting home safely at the end of the night—they're really a story
about how special and fierce friendships are between women.”—NPR's
Book Concierge
“[Schaefer’s] book about the incredible, complicated bonds of
female friendship is relatable, familiar, and subverts the false
notion that women are predisposed to hating each other.”—Mental
Floss
“This is a really good summer read to make you appreciate your
friends. So just pick up a copy and you can finish it at the pool
in like, a day. Just try not to cry in public.”—The Betches
“Text Me When You Get Home offers a new sociological perspective—as
well as a celebration—of female friendships today.”—PopSugar
“I went to an all-girls boarding school, so I thought I had a PhD
in female friendship, but Text Me When You Get Home put me in
my place.”—Town & Country, Editor's Pick
“I was deeply moved by this book. I cried and I laughed. I
recognized myself in it. I felt raised up and also challenged. It
felt like a delicious, long overdue conversation with a best friend
I didn’t know I had. I will be giving this book to all my
girlfriends.”—Lennon Parham, creator, writer and star
of Best Friends Forever and Playing House
“Warning: this absolutely delightful and insightful book on the
immense power of female friendship will make you book a trip to
visit your college best friend immediately. You might even buy
Beyoncé tickets. It’s that good.”—Jessica St. Clair, creator,
writer and star of Best Friends Forever and Playing
House
“Here’s a book to devour in two sittings....Readers of all
generations will enjoy her engaging writing and may see their own
friendships reflected in her stories.”—Booklist
“Part social history, part personal narrative, Text Me When
You Get Home is a Valentine to female
friendship.”—ShelfAwareness
“A refreshing read that really gets at the heart of why
portrayals on Insecure, Broad City, and everything in-between so
greatly resonate.”—Bitch Media
“This in-depth look into the evolution of female friendship is one
all women will benefit from this year.”—Working Mother
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