Razia Ladson-Shamsiddeen was born and raised in the Queensbridge Housing Projects of New York City. She is the third eldest of nine siblings. Her experience with two (2) failed marriages, both to Muslim men, taught her very important life lessons. She talks about the abuses that went on in the marriages and how she turned her inner turmoil into inner strength. Dale Carnegie's quote "When fate hands you a lemon, make lemonade" epitomizes the self-improvement principles that Shamsiddeen discusses in her book. Shamsiddeen urges her readers to make the most out of their lives despite any circumstances that may hinder them. This book is a testament to the fact that life is full of choices and, ultimately, these choices will shape a person and will define the kind of life that person lives. Shamsiddeen states, "My first divorce set me free and propelled me in the way of greatness. It was like moving out of my mom's house and graduating from college at the same time. The world was my oyster..... With my second divorce, I became invincible. I was armed with the experience of verbal and emotional abuse and social deprivation. When I shed that skin, I became the conqueror instead of the conquered". Shamsiddeen writes "Being true to yourself is at the very core of your existence. It is what makes you tick, brings happiness and contentment into your life, gives you peace of mind, and allows you to grow in ways you never thought possible. It is such a small thing, with big implications and results. It is like the word 'if' in the English language. It is said to be the biggest word in the dictionary because behind that word is a world of possibilities. That is what being true to yourself means". It is the journey Shamsiddeen has taken and has tried to share her experience, knowledge and wisdom with her readers in the hope that it would put them on the path to growth, love, compassion, and the search for truth and self-love.