Reviews

Can you use a condom with a catheter? How do you have intercourse in a wheelchair? This detailed guide answers these questions and others that the nondisabled can't imagine. Chapters address anatomy, response, and the basics of oral, penetrative, and solo sex, as well as tips for positioning, meeting people, communicating about sex, and dealing with sexual abuse. There's an extensive resource section and an outstanding chapter on sex toys. The book gives S/M and Tantric sex brief coverage, focusing more on the myths surrounding sexuality and disability and those around sexual health and STDs. Kaufman is a pediatrician, Cory Silverberg a sex educator, and Fran Odette a disability activist/educator. Their overall message: there is no "right way" to have sex. Individuals need to discover what "sex" is for them and give themselves permission to consider anything as a sexual experience. The nondisabled should listen up. Recommended for all public libraries together with Ken Kroll and Erica Levy Klein's also excellent Enabling Romance, which has somewhat less on sexual techniques and more about relationships and reproductive issues.-Martha Cornog, Philadelphia, PA Copyright 2004 Reed Business Information.