MarlenE Lyons and Jett Psaris are co-founders of conseLling and workshop centres.
There is a new paradigm of relationship emerging from the shattered
marriages of the past forty years. For the authors the key is a new
kind of love, a love that is not burdened by the host of selves
that are designed to keep us safe and separate from each other.
Most of all, Undefended Love is about a totally new kind of
intimacy that is possible when one's heart is opened to the deeper
possibilities of conscious relationship.
--Hal & Sidra Stone, co-authors of Embracing Ourselves and
Embracing Each Other
"If Intimacy is understood as stripping away you outer, more public
ways of being and sharing your inner life with another, the Psaris
and Lyons have written the definitive guidebook. Their description
of the conditioned self and the journey to authenticity is not only
precise and thorough, but extremely readable as well. For anyone on
a journey to intimacy, this book will be a great delight to
read."
--Susan Page, How One of You Can Bring Two of You Together and The
8 Essential Traits of Couples Who Thrive
"Our deep and aching desire for enduring love drives many of us
repeatedly into relationships that offer little chance of lasting
fulfillment. In Undefended Love, Psaris and Lyons go straight to
the heart of what is most important to all of us: how to be in an
intimate relationship that nourishes and sustains us and our
partner. Undefended Love calls us to an expression of the courage
and compassion needed to authentically know who we are and
fearlessly share that truth with another person, to come home to
ourselves, and experience the powerful joy of truly intimate
loving. It is a jewel of a book."
--Mary Manin Morrissey, Building Your Field of Dreams
An inspiring and practical approach to lasting, loving
relationships. With clarity and depth, this book guides readers to
challenge the emotionally protective barriers of personality so
they can become liberated to love from an undefended heart. The
writing is crisp, the message is clear, the effect profound.
--Jennifer & John Welwood, author of Journey of the Heart and Love
and Awakening
I immediately found myself underlining ideas on almost every page.
Psaris and Lyons' methods make so much sense; This book shows
exactly how to use our biggest difficulties as the keys to becoming
more deeply authentic, in love, and happily commited. A major
achievement!
--Carol Adrienne, author of The Celestine Prophesy: An Experiential
Guide and The Purpose of Your Life
This beautifully written work is a stunning breakthrough in the
field of books on relationships. Its vision of direct, unmediated
love could not be more original. The long-term experience of its
authors, two veteran therapists, brings authority and compassion to
every page. I was deeply moved by how much 'new' there is to learn
about love-of the self as well as others-and how quickly the
transformative power of this work takes hold.
--Patricia Holt, former book review editor, San Francisco
Chronicle
This is a remarkable book. It is full of warmth and humanity, while
also being a wise and insightful work that is obviously the product
of real-world experience in healing broken relationships. Best of
all, however, is how the authors have placed their work in a
spiritual context that compellingly shows how loss of contact with
Essence is at the root of our problems being with ourselves and
with others. It is one of those rare books that can actually change
lives.
--Don Richard Riso & Russ Hudson, The Wisdom of the Enneagram
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