MarlenE Lyons and Jett Psaris are co-founders of conseLling and workshop centres.
There is a new paradigm of relationship emerging from the
shattered marriages of the past forty years. For the authors the
key is a new kind of love, a love that is not burdened by the host
of selves that are designed to keep us safe and separate from each
other. Most of all, Undefended Love is about a totally new kind of
intimacy that is possible when one's heart is opened to the deeper
possibilities of conscious relationship.
--Hal & Sidra Stone, co-authors of Embracing Ourselves and Embracing Each Other
"If Intimacy is understood as stripping away you outer, more
public ways of being and sharing your inner life with another, the
Psaris and Lyons have written the definitive guidebook. Their
description of the conditioned self and the journey to authenticity
is not only precise and thorough, but extremely readable as well.
For anyone on a journey to intimacy, this book will be a great
delight to read."
--Susan Page, How One of You Can Bring Two of You Together and The 8 Essential Traits of Couples Who Thrive
This beautifully written work is a stunning breakthrough in the
field of books on relationships. Its vision of direct, unmediated
love could not be more original. The long-term experience of its
authors, two veteran therapists, brings authority and compassion to
every page. I was deeply moved by how much 'new' there is to learn
about love-of the self as well as others-and how quickly the
transformative power of this work takes hold.
--Patricia Holt, former book review editor, San Francisco Chronicle
An inspiring and practical approach to lasting, loving
relationships. With clarity and depth, this book guides readers to
challenge the emotionally protective barriers of personality so
they can become liberated to love from an undefended heart. The
writing is crisp, the message is clear, the effect profound.
--Jennifer & John Welwood, author of Journey of the Heart and Love and Awakening
I immediately found myself underlining ideas on almost every
page. Psaris and Lyons' methods make so much sense; This book shows
exactly how to use our biggest difficulties as the keys to becoming
more deeply authentic, in love, and happily commited. A major
--Carol Adrienne, author of The Celestine Prophesy: An Experiential Guide and The Purpose of Your Life
This is a remarkable book. It is full of warmth and humanity,
while also being a wise and insightful work that is obviously the
product of real-world experience in healing broken relationships.
Best of all, however, is how the authors have placed their work in
a spiritual context that compellingly shows how loss of contact
with Essence is at the root of our problems being with ourselves
and with others. It is one of those rare books that can actually
--Don Richard Riso & Russ Hudson, The Wisdom of the Enneagram
"Our deep and aching desire for enduring love drives many of us
repeatedly into relationships that offer little chance of lasting
fulfillment. In Undefended Love, Psaris and Lyons go
straight to the heart of what is most important to all of us: how
to be in an intimate relationship that nourishes and sustains us
and our partner. Undefended Love calls us to an expression
of the courage and compassion needed to authentically know who we
are and fearlessly share that truth with another person, to come
home to ourselves, and experience the powerful joy of truly
intimate loving. It is a jewel of a book."
--Mary Manin Morrissey, Building Your Field of Dreams