Table of Contents

1 They seem so charming 2 The secret battle 3 Behind the mask 4 Where is God in all this? 5 When it feels simpler to leave things be 6 Pursuing change 7 Speaking of a bigger God 8 Changing mirrors 9 Into the light 10 Changing lives 11 The first few months 12 Feeling the fallout PS Never looking back Appendices A Emergency plan B How the church can help C Template prayers

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Equips and empowers church leaders (and others) to deal with a massive, but hidden, problem prevalent in churches and wider communities, offering lasting solutions and genuine hope.

About the Author

Helen Thorne is Director of Training and Mentoring at London City Mission. She is a trustee of Biblical Counselling UK. She blogs, speaks and writes on subjects such as self-harm, the fantasy trap and identity. She attends Dundonald Church in Wimbledon.

Reviews

'The style is engaging, vulnerable, sensitive and intelligent.' (Praise for Purity is Possible) * Amazon *
Many of us are unaware of the enormous volume of people experiencing domestic abuse globally. This book is a hugely educational and enlightening explanation of such atrocities, which, without our awareness, could be happening in our very churches and neighbourhoods. It offers sound teaching for the professional counsellor as well as the untrained, enabling us to act wisely and decisively, helping and supporting such victims. A must for every church! * Fiona Castle - author, speaker and widow of Roy *
A powerful and accessible introduction to this disturbing subject. A necessary and thoroughly Biblical part of any pastors toolkit. * Graham Miller, Chief Servant @windy_london *
Concise yet comprehensive, empathic but empowering, practical and prayerful - this small volume with be a big help to those suffering from domestic abuse as well as those supporting them. * Dr Trevor Stammers, Reader in Bioethics, St Mary's University and author of Love Lies Bleeding: When Intimacy turns to Abuse *
Given that most of us have no idea how common domestic abuse is, nor how deeply it affects our relationships with God and other people, this book needs to be read twice, with some urgency, in every church. Read once, it will open our eyes to the scale of the problem which many in our churches are facing right now. Read a second time, it will help us make concrete plans to take actions which honour God and bring hope and help to those who suffer acutely. Our churches, and victims within them, will find the plain-speaking text and the excellent bulleted lists to be God's wisdom. * Dr Andrew Nicholls, Pastor of Dundonald Church and Deputy Director of Biblical Counselling UK *